This is a myth. A certain type of Asian guys (aka twinks) attracts a certain type of white guys (aka older), that’s about it. When you go on grindr there’s a ton of guys openly stating that they don’t want Asians.
that is true. When i first came to the bay area to live 20 years ago i had nothing to do but go to starbucks a lot and i noticed something different from taiwan.
Taiwanese girls who are pretty tend to appreciate someone showing interest in them and looking at them. But American girls if you should look at them (and they dont immediatly like you) they are not pleased and if you look at them two times in a minute they will CHANGE SEATS to get away from you thinking you may be some disgusting pervert or a serial killer or a serial killer digusting pervert. After awhile I no longer look at any girls in cafes . It is just NOT a place to meet anyone in CAlifornia. Here cafes are not the place where people generally chat each other up. Neither are gyms.
People here meet by introduction i believe or in bars perhaps when drunk enough.
i have a finely tuned girl-dar and can scan a crowded train for cuties in 3 seconds so i dont think im perving anyone out.
i dont girl watch in the usa much because american girls dont seem to like being looked at much.
its in a way funny that girls would get dressed up , do their make up , hair and all that to look great then get upset when people notice them?
I guess they only want the “right men” in their eyes to notice them.
everyone else can f*ck off. lol
Yea the way it is is getting toxic. Girls would spend hours doing make up and looking good then get all uncomfortable when people look at them. I do not think girls think logically, including dating and relationship. If they find some guy attractive, it is not a choice.
thats not been my experience here in the bay area. You may have a different experience.
I dont have a problem in taiwan, few of the girls that i glanced at had a problem.
here i have to make sure she doesnt spot me looking at her or else…two looks in one minute and she will physically move out of my sight. LOL.
but its ok, i changed my habits and thats why when in cafes i just mind my own business and do what everyone else is doing, put on my headphones . listen to my music , text on my phone.
Thats why i was so unready when the two times in ten years someone actually TALKED to me in a cafe? I was like “huh” is she talking to ME?? I was in space .
well they didnt make ME feel better when i feel like they must think im a disgusting serial killer and have to move further away in the cafe…
thats not the response i get in taipei.
so after some time i learned to NOT look at them…and use the attitude that they can f*ck off too. Sad i know.
but its ok. I basically stopped looking unless something sticks out.
LIke the time i noticed this white girl across from me (she had a nice slim asian girl figure) with a miniskirt didnt shave her legs and she was HAIRY while this guy sitting in her same area had shorts on…white guy…and his legs were bare… that was inconsistent to what the unused part of my brain normally computes…so it got me to look.
I can be so unobservant in public…like the time in wanli waiting for the bus in front of a 7/11 and it took me a full minute for the unused part of my brain to get me to look again at the “guy riding behind the other guy on a scooter wearing a large orange jacket in the summer sun” and realize it was not a guy it was AN ORANGUTAN on the back of the scooter barely 2 feet in front of me.
so if i know you and you see me in public forgive me if i dont notice you immediately …im somewhere lost in space most likely
More accurately, that’s the Bay Area, one of the worst dating scenes for men in the whole country. Southern California is much better, or used to be anyway. In any case, you’re happily married now, so it’s all a moot point.