Matchstick_man, nature versus nuture refers to genetic versus child-rearing environment as competing hypotheses in determining personality and behavior. Life being what you make it is more about being in control of your life and your enjoyment of life as an adult. I don’t think it’s useful to conflate the two. Both are interesting topics, but they’re distinct. That said, yes, I think life is what you make it. I choose to fill my life with a broad range of activities, and very little boob tube, and I feel that makes my life richer and more valuable, for instance.