[quote=“Gym Rat”]Okay, I see your point about enjoying the attention while I’m still young. I think these guys are just bored…I’m sure they like my blond hair or something. But most of the jeers happen when I am out jogging, but there’s no way I’m going to run in baggy sweatpants and a sweatshirt. I’d burn up! I sweat like a Westerner, and I prefer my tank top and shorts. So I guess I just have to accept the fact that I’m “asking for attention” by being an anomaly on this island. It’s been months since I’ve bumped into a female runner…especially one wearing shorts!
But I do feel like a piece of meat sometimes, and that drives me crazy. I’m married, so I think that makes me even more sensitive. The days of trying to attract the attention of young men are over for me.[/quote]
Gym Rat, where do you run? TW people, when they run, usually run in the park or on tracks on on designated places for running. One of my LE friends told me that he thinks its very odd that foreigners just run in the street. So you are also attracting attention by doing something odd here, even if it is a harmless activity.
You sound like you are new here. Look, you are blond, young, and attractive. Look around you. How many blondes do you see in a typical day? Three? Four? You should realize that some of the male population here dreams about western blondes and rarely has a chance to see one. So yes, they are going to stare at you. Just like a guy back home who dreams of Asian women but lives in a town with a very small asian population will stare at any asian woman who walks by. You are an object of desire here, the subject of fantasies. These men have grown up on western movies where a blonde is seen as the ultimate unattainable prize. You may not realize it yet, but YOU are exotic. This makes you exiting to them. Oh, and since they haven’t seen may young blondes in the flesh, you probably look just like some celebrity to them. Even if you don’t look like one back home, you look like one here. Just like any guys with blue eyes looks like Brad Pitt.
You should make friends with whatever TW women work with you and ask them for pointers on what is considered appropriate vs. inappropriate behavior towards women. Learn how the TW women deal with unwanted male attention and deal with it the way they do. Sorry I can’t give you more advice in this area, but I think that a lot of TW men have very strange ideas towards western girls. If you deal with things the way TW women do, that should help.
Also, your attire IS part of the reason you are being leered at (as opposed to being noticed). I understand it’s hot here, but a big baggy t-shirt might help. Better yet, have a t-shirt made that says “I love my husband” in Chinese.
Is it just staring or is it actual leering that would be considered inappropriate by a tw woman? I think you need to make some TW female friends here who can tell you what your best response should be. But be careful who you ask. A lot of TW women are insanely jealous of blondes for the same reasons I listed above. They grew up seeing Marily Monroe, Pamela Anderson, Jessica Simpson, etc. being held up as the ultimate icons of female beauty. It does bother them more than you think. So tread carefully, you don’t want to make them more jealous of you than they already are. Think about how an average-looking girl back home who didn’t get much attention would feel if a wildly hot asian girl asked them “oh, the men here just won’t leave me alone, don’t you feel sorry for me?” Make sure the TW girls you ask are very, very attractive and can sympathize. Better yet, find one who has lived abroad and knows what it’s like to be an “exotic” object.
Best of luck.