I’ve tried once. It lasted only for 5 months. we talked on phone often and met each other in Hong Kong or Thailand every few weeks. costs lots of money though. After almost 2 years, we are considering getting back together. however, I am considerinf the old problems too…
oh, I just wonder if it’s going to work out…
You take the chance, and if you think it’s worth it then take it, no regret in life is my philosphy. I can tell you example of things worked out and example of thing didn’t work out, it only depends on the both of you, not what “us” we outsider says. Best luck to you though.
By the way if you want it to work out, you have to have a firm believe in it, otherwise it’s easy to slip (for both sides).
You could always use the old problems as a guidline as to what to watch out for and work harder on? Sometimes if you focus on the problems in a relationship in a good way, they will eventually turn into strengths.
I had a great LD relationship once. But then I moved back to the city I lived in when we met (the city in which he lived) and found out I REALLY didn’t like him. :raspberry:
I’ve had a few LDRs in my days. I find them difficult at best and quite often I feel like a “holiday husband”.
I was seeing a girl in Taichung for over a year but sadly it didn’t work out because I didn’t understand the culture or a few things about Taiwanese women. Wish I had because she was a keeper.
Sc, just try. My long distance relationship worked really well. It cost us both alot of money in plane rickets and phone calls. But at the end of the day I ended up with the person I wanted to be with , not just some “convenient other”.
Go for it! If you don’t try you’ll never know.
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This is how I felt…we met somewhere for a weekend or he came for a few days. I often felt that I am his holiday lover. Finally when he was moving over, I suddenly realized something and gave up eventually
I also found it was rather “jarring” that I have this woman come in for a few days or a week to me. It sorted snaps me out of the normal rhythm which is good and bad I suppose. Therein is the only “advantage” I can see which is the short period of happiness and general (at least for me) lack of conflict. But in a normal relationship conflict is always lurking like the unseen shadow and/or daily problems potentially have more of an impact.
I definetely didn’t like seeing them go and it made more difficult if they cried. But then I got back to my normal routine and went on with emails, txt msg, and phone calls. The Taiwanese girl I was seeing had big issues with me leaving back home she did not take it well despite being rather strong willed and not prone to emotional outbursts.
It can work. A good friend of mine was in a long term relationship for several years. He was in the U.S., she was in Japan. They eventually got married and now they have a 3 year old daughter.
I don’t think I’d want to go that route, but I guess it works for some people. 
I tried it 4 times. Once when I was going to school in Japan with a guy in Cali, and then a few times when I was studying in Taiwan. It never worked out. But if it does, there’s a better chance that you guys will last a long time.
What was that saying? “Love like you’ve never loved before?” Oh, I can’t remember.
I am in my 7th year with my gf and we’ve lived in the same city for only 1.5 years. 3 years was LDR 10000km apart, the rest in different cities 300km apart. It was quite difficult at times but all in all an experience I wouldn’t want to miss. The 3 years when we saw each other for 7-8 weeks all in all were tough and the time between those meetings was basically like living a different life when we had to put the love to rest for a while so it didn’t hurt so much.
When a relationship overcomes so many obstacles on the way (don’t get me started on her family…) you feel like it is destiny to stay together and the little annoyances of daily life seem rather trivial compared to the struggles of the past. It made our bond stronger in any case.
I have no idea how you guys managed these LDR… But I appluad you for your success… :bravo:
I’ve only had one and it ended in dismal failure. My long time girlfriend (now ex) and I decided it would be a good idea for me to come to Taiwan for two years as I’ve always wanted to travel and work in a foreign country. We had these grandiose plans that I would come here for two years, save and come home and study full time again. Before I came to Taiwan we had been together for three years and lived together for two of those…very happily I might add.
I had been in Taiwan for four months when I rushed to the local internet cafe to get my daily “sweet e-mail” from home only to find…horrors of horrors…A DEAR JOHNNY letter in my inbox… :fume:
Man I was POed… Her reasons, she realised since I was gone that she was much happier without me than when I was there… :loco: What the hell? There had never been ANY indication of unhappiness on her part. But then again, maybe she had just been keeping it inside and never communicated it to me, or maybe I wasn’t “observant” enough…
In any event, at least we are still good friends, but like I say, it’s never worked for me, and although I applaud your successes in this venture, I have no idea how you’ve done it. But good on you all the same… 
The grass is always greener, Bismark…it’s the way it goes. It’s not you. She’s an ordinary girl and you’re an ordinary guy. These things happen. Find another ordinary girl and you’ll be happy.
Cheers mate. I’m happily looking.