There are quite a few of us dealing with the long distance mom or dad parenting issue.
Just this week for example.
I have a 15 year old going to her first ball on Saturday and have organised a friend to stand in for me as the dad during the dad and daughter dance. I am going there next month for her 16th birthday and this was decided some time ago. Does not make it any better for either of us though.
My 18 year old has 3 weeks study time off university to prepare for exams. 2nd day in she had done nothing but get stress cramps in her neck.
I set up a system with her yesterday where I will phone her every day to discuss yesterdays study and what her plans are for this days study. (this is a new idea so I have no idea what will happen but have told her I will phone again each day even if she gets angry)
X wife put the boots in again yesterday about has it been worth it being in Taiwan while the children are growing up.