Modern life skills

I’m pretty sure the ‘traditional’ family structure I think you’re describing is a pretty modern invention.

That said, I’ve met very few parents that I think are not caring. Not well equipped, sure, uncaring, few and far in between.

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Hmm yes. This could be the root of the problem for me.

That’s nonsense. i was a kid 35 years ago, and me all my friends had 2 working parents.
If anything i think the problem is “over-caring” in Taiwan.
I dont see in Taiwan the things that used to be an integral part of my childhood: I used to go/come back from school by myself, my parents used to send me to the store to buy stuff (milk/eggs/bread) , go to the park to play soccer / basketball in the afternoon…
I have been here close to 13 years, and have never seen a kid alone in a store buying eggs… Hardly see kids walking to school.

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It’s all on YouTube now

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Yes! You can even learn swimming on youtube :slight_smile: Though im not sure how you will actually manage in the pool

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I’m a big fan Haidt, he’s kinda like Jordan Peterson but for reasonable and intelligent people

This is a good time to plug my dormant Big Think thread

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You will see this in mountain and east coast communities. Not much in the towns and cities on the west coast.

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Yes, I live in Taipei so I don’t know what is going on in other regions.

Anxiety is just that though, regular difficulties.
Anxiety is the interplay between three emotions: fear, worry and nervousness. Everyone has anxiety, it’s an evolutionary necessity. I think it’s good that more people self diagnose this as they can then start to untangle their emotions and have a better understanding of them.
Telling kids to toughen up is shitty, toxic, abusive advice. Not that you were suggesting that.

Kate Collins-Donnelly has written a series of books, “Starving the (anxiety/stress/anger) gremlin,” which help young people better understand their emotions so they can grow and understand themselves better.

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During uni I shared a house with a guy who suffered from panic attacks. I’m not sure which specific life skills could have helped him deal with these. I used to tell him to relax and take deep breaths, but it didn’t work.

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Maybe he needs medications for those…

No to medication. Panic attacks are not dangerous and are not physically harmful for the body. CBT and talking therapy is recommended.

Panic attacks can be symptomatic of other issues, such a depression, for which medication can be prescribed. However, there’s new evidence to suggest that low levels of serotonin is not the cause of many psychological difficulties and so SSRI medications are probably useless.

There’s too much disinformation out there about mental health.

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Good luck getting CBT in Taiwan. The only treatment that I ever gotten, or rather NHI will pay for, is drugs. Everything else you pay out of pocket. I actually have no idea what CBT is or what it looks like as no doctors in Taiwan will give them.

Cock and ball torture!

It’s actually cognitive behavioural treatment. It’s used to treat some types of past traumatic events. I had a friend who had that style of treatment toPTSD. It’s very brutal and not many can suffer it.

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Unfortunately Taiwan’s management of mental health is pretty backward.

There’s nothing magical about CBT. It basically involves getting people to change their habits (usually stepwise), and over time our brains start filling in justifications for why these new actions are being performed. Eventually new scripts are created and the new habits become second nature. While there is usually some attempt to get the patient to discuss why certain patterns of behaviour are unhelpful (and why the new ones are better), IMO this is mostly superfluous.

You can, incidentally, use the same technique to make people perform completely irrational rituals.

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Given the number of mass shootings I can’t say America’s management of mental health is any better… They have good mental health treatment available, if you can afford it.

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I’d say that’s more related to the causes of poor mental health rather than the treatment of it … which brings us full circle back to the point the OP was making.

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It is a learning and discovery tool. The message, in essence, is that thoughts create emotions and emotions drive behaviour. Once you can recognise the pattern of thoughts you are having you can break the cycle.

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If you really wanted to help yourself, you could check it out on YouTube

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Brief summary for MAYO. Cognitive behavioral therapy - Mayo Clinic