[quote=“Hartzell”]I think that this thread has generated some good discussion. Indeed, I am grateful for all the well thought-out replies.
However, I think that one aspect has been overlooked. The three children in attendance (two children of the host couple, and one child of the invited guest couple) had already been served, and had already begun eating.
Doesn’t this fact need to be factored into everyone’s analysis?
In other words, can we say that since the host couple has offered no objection to their own children and the invited couple’s child to BEGIN EATING, they are in effect indicating that they don’t care who starts first??
From another viewpoint, is there any rationale for saying that someone should have instructed the children to WAIT ??[/quote]
This was another breach of polite etiquette. It’s possible that the modern relaxed etiquette makes it ok for children to be excused from dinner protocol, but they shouldn’t be, IMO.
Nevertheless, if children were somehow excused from observing proper etiquette, adults are not excused because the children were. Adults are expected to behave to a higher standard.