as most stories,this is a long one,but i wanted to get some feedback.
i just broke-up from my GF of 4 years.
it wasn’t going so well for about 6 months,for several reasons.
-uncertain relationship future (she is not officially divorced from her ex,divorce doesn’t exist here,our attempts were rejected)
-constant troubles with her ex’s family (they kept opening court cases to gain custody of the 2 kids from the 1st relationship)
during the period where it wasn’t going so well,i got to know someone really sweet (i know,they all are to begin with!),that girl went through the same type of break-up 6 months ago and is very understanding and supportive.
beside,she ticks all the boxes on the list of what i really hoped a SO to be.
the dilema is that,i feel responsible for my ex,
i totally changed her life in that i provided her with anything and everything financially,
got her to move to a new part of the country away from her family where she got a job and a circle of friends.
so when we ended it,she wished to stay in this little town,because of friends/work.
and although i knew it would make for awkward moments,i had no rights to ask her to move away.
the new girl moved in with me,and now we feel like prisoners because any outings implies walking past my ex,with all the drama you can imagine.
moving away/changing job is NOT an option for me.
should i just bare with all the trouble until it inevitably quiets down??
another question is:
is it abnormal to ask your SO not to check your cellphone/computer??