Ah, I see now. Thank you for explaining.
That is something I also mentioned: if we start to look for negatives, we will find negatives. I have this crazy belief that your attitude “molds/shapes/creates” your reality. You scowl at the beginning of the day, you will have a rough day kind of thing. It is not that you will become a magnet for all bad things to happen as per Murphy’s law, but rather that you will notice the smallest inconvenience and make an Everest out of a grain of salt.
Which is why I try, when I encounter people who treat me unfairly, to bounce back, to let it roll off me like water off a duck’s back. But still, I am concerned at what I preceive to be this constant needling of “furriners = bad” I see on the media. But then, I have to face the media often. And the “you are a foreigner = you do not understand/it is not the same” crowd even more often. Comes with the territory. Hence, I am biased and my opinions should be taken with a pound of salt. Yet, as an old timer, I have seen most of all, can’t remember it all, but cases aplenty.
I had also mentioned sometime we could face the extra attention as if we were really celebrities -which we are: I am the famous furriner of alley 16, known to all for the biggest garbage bags in the hood and the meanest dogs in the block. Do we want to pull a Michael Jackson or be suave like, like, … ehem, help me here? George Takei?