Didn’t say it was. But the fact that many jobs which were performed exclusively by men in the past are even occasionally performed by women is a major change, as is the tendency for women to work in paying jobs at all. Our social reality is definitely changing in that way.
My observation wasn’t that trivial. My point was that we all have some innate and timeless concept of what is appropriate male and female attire, and men and women enjoy conforming to those concepts. It’s very hard to pin it down to details - a fashion designer might be able to - but it’s there.
No doubt it’s there, as I recognized.
Simply so that they can pick an appropriate mode of address
Of direct address? I guess this is a joke.
Not yet, no.
In that case, I don’t understand what you mean.
A certain amount of removal of choices makes people feel comfortable. Up to a point. This has been well-studied. When people are given too many choices they get upset.
So we should deny choices to people? How happy has that been found to make people?
I probably could get angsty if I wanted. I’m, erm, not very male. I hate football, cars, and cricket. I get along better in female company than I do with men. I don’t like jumping off cliffs, getting drunk and starting fights. OTOH I’m absolutely certain that I am male and enjoy being male. A lot. I do various things that define me quite clearly as male. However, if I listened too hard to too much bullshit, I might start asking myself stupid questions about my gender. I might think that, because I’m a bit off-centre, I need a new pronoun. Fortunately, I’m a reactionary old bastard and I don’t have time for such nonsense.
Those things vary. It doesn’t matter whether you meet anyone’s preconceived notions of what is important for your gender. You are being what you want to be in the end, no? And if you did ask yourself stupid questions, what would be the big deal? FWIW, I don’t like jumping off cliffs either. With or without that stretchy book cord thing. I never liked those anyway. Get a bag. I like getting drunk though.
This is not denial. It’s a realisation that one’s identity depends to a large extent on others. No man, woman, or genderless person is an island.
Sure. I’m reading a great book now that talks about this kind of thing, The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt. Well worth looking up if you haven’t. Having said that, individuality is a thing as well, and some people prefer that path.