we (my wife, junior and myself) are now back in australia and have been back for some time and i am really not happy with the way my wife is looking after my son - for a variety of reasons. they are:
it is cold here and she wraps him in about about 6-7 layers of clothing and the poor kid cannot walk properly and he sweats like anything. as we go inside a warmk building, she refuses to take any of his layers of clothing off and he is hot. i mention it to her, my friends mention it to her that it is not healthy and that his body should breathe - especially in a warm building but she refuses and gets angry and say that he will get cold. no matter what we say, no matter what other babies i show her, she gets angry and refuses to take his multiple layers of clothing off when we are inside a warm building.
she is not feeding him corrrectly. no vegetables but continual mash of noodles, milk and water. I grew up on vegetables and my 19 month old son has hardly had any. she says he is not ready yet. again, myself, my family and my freinds try and say something but she gets angry and says that she knows the ebst because he is her son and that is the way she was fed.
she feeds him junk food (fried too). and i say no, never do this but she says that he won’t drink his milk and he has to eat something. i say try some fruit and she says that he doesn’t like it. again she gets angry and any conversation after that is illogical.
she puts the mobile phone next to his ear when talking to her mum in Taiwan. i say NEVER EVER do this, and i have showed her articles from newspapaers from the net etc about the dangers of doing this but she says her mother is crying and wants to hear the voiuce of our son (we don’t have a land line). But she continually does it.
There are other reasons as well but the above are what i can immediately think of.
I say things and i do things and i show her professional examples that counter what she is doing but she gets angry and very defensive and illogical and any conversation after that is not worthy as then “Taiwanese girl logic” comes in to. I am at my wits end as i can see that my son is not being looked after (in my eyes) and i am at the stage of going to a lawyer about it.
I do understand that cultural differences do exist in raising children but i also think common sense should prevail as well.
Any ideas or suggestions?