I have a question. I am wonderring if anyone knows why people do this or has it happen to them all the time too.
When I go to get food, people always ask if I want a bag, soup, a drink, ect. Which is, of course, normal. But what doesn’t seem normal to me (and is actually kind of irritating) is that if I say BuYao, they ask again. If I shake my head no, they ask again. Just about every time this happens, they wind up dragging me over to point at the soup as they say again that I can have soup. To which I always say that I have already said I don’t want it. Or if they ask if I want something cut up. And I say no. They grab a knife and make cutting gestures and then look at me. Like I am going to change my mind now that I have seen the knife. “Of, shit, you are right. I DO want it cut up”. Same thing with drinks. I say BuYao, they drag me over to the tea thing and show me that tea comes out.
I know this is a silly thing to ask about, but on some areas I find it really annoying (I don’t want a bag because I eat out all the freaking time and frankly don’t want to throw away 1000 plastic bags a year.) on other areas I don’t care as much (they force me to take the soup, I just don’t eat it. They force me to take the tea, I just don’t drink it.)
I mention this because I went to get Orange Juice for my breakfast. I said I don’t want sugar. She argued with me. She said “It is more delicious with sugar” and I said “I don’t want sugar” and she said “This?” and held up sugar. and I said “COrrect, don’t want” (all this, of course, in chinese) and she said “It is bad without sugar” and put sugar in it. Which, of course, I refused to take because if I wanted sugar in my OJ I would go buy it at 7-11 for a whole lot less money.
(long rant huh?)
So why do people not take no for an answer?
And before anyone says that they just don’t think I know what they are talking about, people who I have spoken to 100 times who know I speak chinese still do this to me. There is a guy at my favourite LuWei stand who I won’t buy from if he is there. Because I will tell him I don’t want it too spicy and he will say “But you like spicy food” and I will say “that is already too spicy” and he will keep scooping on the spicy and say “No, it is not spicy enough for you yet”.
I don’t understand!!!