oh… and just a quick note on the fam thing.
in my XP. a child is a womans world. no gettin around that
I had a realatively hard time working in a school for disabled and mentally handicapped children in Germany 14yrs ago (I was helping my German host mom from years before)
I speak perfect German, and could pass as some German.
However, at the time, I had long curly hair, and there where two kids that where VIOLENT (teens) towards me. would tackle me and want to pull my hair out.
a story solved our problems. I dont remember exactly what it was, but we came up with a story about how my hair was magical and helped me help come up with games and stuff. it worked.
they are kids after all.
you just have to work with them (him). and of course. WANT to work with him. if you dont. as others have said. your relationship is lost. keep that in mind.
when my daughter changed her meds, her new one would put her in mood swings. happy than angry and throwing fits.
distraction was key. if she was throwing a fit.
throw in a game or a toy or a flower candy cookie wahtever
distracted and happy again.
try the story thing. and food/candies.
but, again. you have to really want it. if she is worht it to you. make the commitment to youserlf.
my 2 cents.
gotta go. girls callin