Get out of the country.
Get out of the marrying game.
Get out of your own head.
You’re clearly unhappy here, and with the people here.
You’ve had similar issues with a different woman in Japan, and found the marriage game as frustrating and unrewarding. Get out, and don’t turn around and jump into the pool again.
You might be unlucky once, or twice. But if you want to keep from once more going 'round this unmarry-go-around, talk to someone in the know, someone professional, and learn some strategies to deal or avoid trouble spots.