Because we are entering a phase which makes absolutely no sense. The example of trans athletes in womens sports, if a woman has an objection to a biological male competing against women, she can’t say so because that would be trans phobic in and of itself and might get her banned. She’s not allowed to say biological men can’t transform into woman because that is trans phobic also. Yet it is the objective reality.
Extend that type of reasoning and you have every minority group creating the existential reality, which doesn’t need to be grounded in actual reality, which can be whatever they want and then the rest of society has to accept and adopt it no matter how ludicrous else be called racist, sexist, islamaphobic whatever phobe follows from the minority group asserting their existential reality on everyone else.
It’s bonkers! And if we look at the question “when will all this end” the answer is obvious, never. So at some point the rest of society get to say “stop”. You are not creating a better fairer society, more inclusive more welcoming, one where people care more for each other. You are doing the very opposite, pitting one group against another and it is causing maissive frictions between various groups. Stop it.