I dont need to worry about this phenomenon…
The local girls are nice to me until we actually meet in person, and then suddenly they are ‘in a bad mood’ or ‘busy’ 
I thought ugly blokes found it easy to find girlfriends here?? I feel ripped off…
[quote=“pubba”]I dont need to worry about this phenomenon…
The local girls are nice to me until we actually meet in person, and then suddenly they are ‘in a bad mood’ or ‘busy’
I thought ugly blokes found it easy to find girlfriends here?? I feel ripped off…[/quote]
dont meet em on the net where there are soo many expectations. The meet you and quickly want to forget you syndrome exists here in Berkeley, Calif too pubba.
Meet em in the local cafes. When a girl likes you, she will approach YOU and strike up a conversation. You are ahead of the game then. What you gotta do tho is NOT to APPear like the “color wolf” that you are tho. Dont be licking your chops at every morsel that comes your way ( i know, i tell myself that all the time). cuz the one chick that may like you in that cafe is eyeing you up first before she decides to make an approach or not. Dante cafes are often just filled with “possibilities”.
[quote=“tommy525”][quote=“pubba”]I dont need to worry about this phenomenon…
The local girls are nice to me until we actually meet in person, and then suddenly they are ‘in a bad mood’ or ‘busy’
I thought ugly blokes found it easy to find girlfriends here?? I feel ripped off…[/quote]
dont meet em on the net where there are soo many expectations. The meet you and quickly want to forget you syndrome exists here in Berkeley, Calif too pubba.
Meet em in the local cafes. When a girl likes you, she will approach YOU and strike up a conversation. You are ahead of the game then. What you gotta do tho is NOT to APPear like the “color wolf” that you are tho. Dont be licking your chops at every morsel that comes your way ( i know, i tell myself that all the time). cuz the one chick that may like you in that cafe is eyeing you up first before she decides to make an approach or not. Dante cafes are often just filled with “possibilities”.[/quote]
Tommy is right. Stop trying to win them over online. The only guys who can pull off that approach are those who don’t really need to use it.
I’ve heard this “Nobody is attracted to me” lament hundreds of times, and for those who think that way, it will always be true.
What you need to do is go about actively enjoying your life, instead of actively looking for someone to spend it with. That means you get out and do things that are interesting to you and that make you a better person. You remain open to new friendships, to learning new things, etc., but your main focus is on getting the most of your life. A person fully engaged with his life is attractive to others. And quit wanting it so much. Desperation is always detectable.
Excellent advice!!
[quote=“Tomas”][quote=“tommy525”][quote=“pubba”]I dont need to worry about this phenomenon…
The local girls are nice to me until we actually meet in person, and then suddenly they are ‘in a bad mood’ or ‘busy’
I thought ugly blokes found it easy to find girlfriends here?? I feel ripped off…[/quote]
dont meet em on the net where there are soo many expectations. The meet you and quickly want to forget you syndrome exists here in Berkeley, Calif too pubba.
Meet em in the local cafes. When a girl likes you, she will approach YOU and strike up a conversation. You are ahead of the game then. What you gotta do tho is NOT to APPear like the “color wolf” that you are tho. Dont be licking your chops at every morsel that comes your way ( i know, i tell myself that all the time). cuz the one chick that may like you in that cafe is eyeing you up first before she decides to make an approach or not. Dante cafes are often just filled with “possibilities”.[/quote]
Tommy is right. Stop trying to win them over online. The only guys who can pull off that approach are those who don’t really need to use it.
I’ve heard this “Nobody is attracted to me” lament hundreds of times, and for those who think that way, it will always be true.
What you need to do is go about actively enjoying your life, instead of actively looking for someone to spend it with. That means you get out and do things that are interesting to you and that make you a better person. You remain open to new friendships, to learning new things, etc., but your main focus is on getting the most of your life. A person fully engaged with his life is attractive to others. And quit wanting it so much. Desperation is always detectable.[/quote]
And the best thing is that even if you never score, you’ve got a life to keep your mind off of it.
I suppose the people who wind up with psycho xiaojies are the ones who don’t look at girls any deeper than their…
My post was slightly tongue in cheek. Forgot the smiley though…
But yes - great advice and I agree totally…
My problem is I was happily engaged back in Australia just a month or two before I headed over here. I might be in ‘rebound’ mode? I liked being in a relationship and knowing that there was someone out there who understood me 
Having said that, there are many, many benefits to being single too - so Im just going to enjoy myself.
Too much spare time is a bad thing… Have basically been on holidays until this week, living in the sticks…
Have started working this week and have met a few people already through that.
Last night I ventured out to a small local bar and met loads of nice people. Seemed to be a good crowd and the atmosphere was very laid back. Got approached by two uni girls who bought me drinks and gave me smokes etc etc…
Ended up with 3 phone numbers and a party invite after 2 hours - so Im starting to feel less pathetic now
I appreciate your advice guys - cheers!
told you you wont have any problems
Yep it was a fun night. Very laid back atmosphere and cheap food/drinks…
Ill definitely go back regularly. They have a jam night on Thursdays which I am keen to check out.
I didnt try too hard, just chatted to some of the regulars (damn… one of the guys was like a chinese Newman from Seinfeld!! it kept making me smile)
And before I knew it, people were coming over to hear my (bad) Chinese and give me the regular Taiwan interrogation (Where are you from? Are you married? What is your job? How much do you earn?)
But this is getting off topic…
Hey, that’s great to hear, pubba! 
See? it just takes time. You know what they say, “it’s when you’re not trying so hard, right”? 
Wise words indeed… I consciously went there with no expectations, and didnt actively make eye contact with anyone or even smile much at first…
But sooner or later curiosity got the better of them and I ended up meeting some cool local Taiwanese folks. I can see it being a regular hangout from now on
Whereabouts? My annual wuqi purgatory will be coming up soon and an escape valve is always useful. Jam night on Thursday? Can you find out what happens at CNY – closed for the duration or partying?
Whereabouts? My annual wuqi purgatory will be coming up soon and an escape valve is always useful. Jam night on Thursday? Can you find out what happens at CNY – closed for the duration or partying?[/quote]
I hear ya re: escape valve 
Wu Qi does that to you…
Its called “Big Rose Bang” and is opposite Providence University in Shalu. Jam night is every Thursday and I will try and check it out tonight and get some pictures etc…
Will also ask about their opening hours for CNY. Would be good to hear you play on the Thursday night, Sandy
Heres a thread about the bar forumosa.com/taiwan/viewtopi … 522#672522
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Hey Pubba, I live in Dajia. This is the closest pub for me as I found out for the first time on new year’s eve. I also had a great time and plan to return. Anyway, are you saying that Thursday is the only night for live music? One more thing, how is the menu and the food?
Menu is pretty much one item - Toasted sandwich - with or without egg
Its the usual breakfast sandwich - cheese, ham, tomato, mayo and lettuce
They let you bring your own food in, and there is a street nearby which is popular for its street food and small restaurants…
From what I could see, Thursday is the only live music night. A year or 2 ago they had bands play more often, but I think the people responsible have since moved on…