[quote=“Jefferson”]Loretta - my life isn’t ruled by negatives, though I suppose I am a relatively critical person. But critical works both ways, and anyone who knows me well will tell you how much praise I heap on people with good ideas and positive energy, as well as how successful I am putting ideas into practice. But the truth about life is not everyone fits in one of those categories. Also, I don’t sit around conjuring up negative thoughts about others. I channel my creative energy into conceiving and carrying out successful ventures. Just because someone in this thread wants to paint me a certain way, you shouldn’t buy into it, unless you want to, but it’s your tuppence.
I’ve found the Ignore function an outstanding way of participating on this site [/quote]
I hate being categorised, and I never use the ignore button. Just because I don’t agree with people that doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t take the time to consider what they have to say.
Speaking personally, I can only say that online you seem to be pretty clear in your own mind what is a good idea and what isn’t, and you go from there to being critical (ie judgemental) of other people pretty damn quickly. I look forward to meeting you in real life to learn the truth, which I would view as taking a positive ‘try it and see’ approach instead of either ignoring you or saying “this idea won’t work because Jefferson will ruin it.” I imagine that with real-time feedback you’re a nice guy, and if you’re friends with Miltownkid then you can’t be half as bad as you sometimes portray yourself online.
I’m not claiming to be any better than you, I know that I have problems with the way I talk to people online too sometimes. But I’m recognising that there is a potential problem there, and hence stating my belief that we need to focus on the positive. Just because I don’t think something is going to be successful doesn’t mean that I should try to dampen someone else’s enthusiasm for it.
Sometimes you have to put a lot of time and energy into something to determine that it’s not going to work. Sometimes you have to have enough experience to know when to pull out of something that isn’t going to work, and garnering that experience is part of life. 9 times out of 10, your great new idea is going to be unfruitful, but that doesn’t make it a waste of time. Only when you have pursued all the possibilities at hand and exhausted all the options can you safely say that it’s time to move on. Pursuing ideas that are not going to take off can lead you to new opportunities you wouldn’t have found otherwise. And whatever the outcome, the process itself can be rewarding. I doubt that anyone is going to be planning to invest their life’s savings into perpetual motion machines, why not kick around bad ideas and see where they lead?
Anyway, I take your point that you’re not ruled by negatives. And it’s good to have differing perspectives on ideas or have people pointing out things you may have neglected to think about. I just happen to prefer looking at all possible outcomes and implications of an idea, instead of just the obvious bad ones.