The other day while waiting for the train back to Taipei, I was talking to my friend (who is also ABC) in English when a local guy near us started to STARE at us with a stupid grin on his face to the point where I turned to him and said in Chinese, “Ni yo shenme shi…”
I suppose if I had said it nicely, it would have translated to mean, “Can I help you with something.” But the way I wanted him to interpret it was, “What the hell do you want, you FREAK!”
He of course (of course!) smiled mockingly and said, “Oh nothing… you’re not Taiwanese are you…” and moved in to start a discussion which I readily Heismanned with, “I’m sorry but we are in the middle of the conversation… if you don’t mind…” and motioned for him to please leave us alone.
You know what he did?
He said in Chinese, “Oh sure, no problem,” turned his back on us (which was a good thing), and then BACKED INTO US in order to continue listening in on our conversation!
Normally I would just ignore stupid shit like this and get on with it but every… now… and… then… it just pisses the shit out of me. I do not appreciate being treated as if I am not a human being but rather a SPECTACLE of some sort that doesn’t deserve the right to personal space and privacy which of course leads to a whole nother discussion, etc.
Having said all of that – talking about making a short story long – I tend to think that REGARDLESS of ethnic background (Chinese American, 100% Taiwanese, Western Caucasian, etc.), God is fair. There is an equal number of pluses and minuses to being all of the above (just different) depending on the situation, and it is up to you how you choose to take advantage of the situation (or not).
As an ABC who doesn’t speak Mandarin fluently, I’ve probably experienced the whole range of negatives as described above, but like Poagao pointed out, there are a lot of advantages of being ABC as well and the list is equally long.
It’s hard to DEAL sometimes with the negatives and oh yeah they definitely abound – the real fun begins when your own ABC peers who speak Mandarin much better than you start to be condescending to you and YOU can’t say, “Dood, don’t start comparing else I’m going to point out that at least MY mom speaks English fluently and um… what about yours?”) – but over time as you adjust to your new identity (ABC in Taiwan versus ABC in the U.S.), you learn to appreciate your position (disposition?) and if you’re smart, will use all of it to your advantage.