It’s fezes, not fuses. And they’re hats, not nationalities. You’re thinking of Turks and we really don’t need to know what you’ve been doing to them.
It’s fezes, not fuses. And they’re hats, not nationalities. You’re thinking of Turks and we really don’t need to know what you’ve been doing to them.[/quote]
Oh her, she went to HK with a banker and got some babies. Her snooping was strictly professional.
Duuuude. And you’re an English teacher with headband? 
Ya gotta learn yer grammar, man. Ball is countable. It’s “she found those eight balls of coke”.
[quote=“tash”]I’m disheartened to see how many people are ok with snooping around (not to mention posting it on a public forum)
If this sample is a realistic reperesantaiton of how men out there think and conduct themselves, what chances do I have of finding someone who shares the same values and principles about honesty and opneness as me? 
Sandman being already taken 
[/quote]
Ok Tash, then explain to me the countless number of times of which girlfriends, back home (Canada) and here have done the exact same thing to me?
I personally hope he drops this woman like a hot rock before she destroys him. I’ve been there. I know what it’s like to be crushed by an expert vagina. You know a girl is trouble when she refers to putting on make up as “applying her war paint”. Juss sayin.
Also, to add some balance to my comments; I believe that you get exactly what you attract.
Oh he’s way out. Gonezo. She’s getting stuffed like a Christmas turkey gobble gobble
I think if he suspects his wife is cheating on him, and he has a language issue, then his actions are justified. Assuming he doesn’t have the resources to hire a private investigator to connect all the dots for him on his behalf.
It really is in my opinion a situation of “information is free.” How he chooses to behave now that he has this information in is native tongue is determining factor of guaging his character.
[quote=“ac_dropout”]I think if he suspects his wife is cheating on him, and he has a language issue, then his actions are justified. Assuming he doesn’t have the resources to hire a private investigator to connect all the dots for him on his behalf.
It really is in my opinion a situation of “information is free.” How he chooses to behave now that he has this information in is native tongue is determining factor of guaging his character.[/quote]
Oh I agree with you wholeheartedly. It works both ways.
That being said, there seems to be a ton of insecurity in this relationship and when that happens, this shit starts. It’s nothing new except when women get wind of a man spying on them, then the gloves are off and he can basically kiss her good bye. In the reverse, the man might grovel and earn her backif she’s the snoop. Same can’t be said in reverse. Guilt between the sexes has a different rating altogether. She won’t be returning. If she does, it would be nothing short of a miracle.
[quote=“M0NSTER”][quote=“tash”]I’m disheartened to see how many people are ok with snooping around (not to mention posting it on a public forum)
If this sample is a realistic reperesantaiton of how men out there think and conduct themselves, what chances do I have of finding someone who shares the same values and principles about honesty and opneness as me?
Sandman being already taken [/quote]
Ok Tash, then explain to me the countless number of times of which girlfriends, back home (Canada) and here have done the exact same thing to me?
I personally hope he drops this woman like a hot rock before she destroys him. I’ve been there. I know what it’s like to be crushed by an expert vagina. You know a girl is trouble when she refers to putting on make up as “applying her war paint”. Juss sayin.
Also, to add some balance to my comments; I believe that you get exactly what you attract.[/quote]
IMO, it’s unacceptable for either gender to snoop like that. It is a complete breach of privacy and invades a person’s space, while showing a lack of respect and trust.
One time I was in my friend’s car (Western) in Taiwan, and he got out to pop into a 7-11 with my husband. I stayed in the car with his TW girlfriend and she proceeded to go into the glove compartment, get his wallet out, and snoop through each and every pocket in it while he was in the shop. What a bitch. And what a horribly wrong thing to do.
God, my husband won’t even go into my purse or wallet, even if I ask him to, because he respects my privacy. Women like that. If I ever found him snooping on my phone when I wasn’t around, I would be heartbroken and think of him in a very different light, no matter what the situation.
It’s just downright wrong.
No, it’s because it’s probably a disaster zone! The “respecting your privacy” business is just a convenient excuse. 
Monster, “crushed by an expert vagina?” Is that one belonging to a prostitute, or can anyone with enough “work hours” claim possession to one? As opposed to an amateur vagina, of course. 
Yeah, I too disagree with the snooping. All it does is distance you and reiterate that you expect to be cheated on, which doesn’t speak well for either of you involved in the relationship. (Not saying that the action speaks truly, just that it’s a sad commentary on your relationship.)
[quote=“MissAnomaly”]Monster, “crushed by an expert vagina?” Is that one belonging to a prostitute, or can anyone with enough “work hours” claim possession to one? As opposed to an amateur vagina, of course.
Yeah, I too disagree with the snooping. All it does is distance you and reiterate that you expect to be cheated on, which doesn’t speak well for either of you involved in the relationship. (Not saying that the action speaks truly, just that it’s a sad commentary on your relationship.)[/quote]
In my world, a girl isn’t a whore unless she thinks she is. But they might as well have been in some cases. Are you claiming to be an amateur? Hey, I just turned 30 but I have enough ‘spunk’ left for a couple of rounds. I won’t charge for lessons. Appetizing?*
*I make myself gag.
Me too. 
And since when did 30 become the age when people started to lose their mojo?! 
So, Falmer, what are you going to do? Whatever you do, good luck. Try to get out and enjoy yourself, maybe make some friends. This seems like a pretty bad situation, but there are also good people out there. I hope you find them. 
No, it’s because it’s probably a disaster zone! The “respecting your privacy” business is just a convenient excuse. [/quote]
That could be, I never thought of that…he’s probably actually intimidated!!
And since when did 30 become the age when people started to lose their mojo?! [/quote]OUCH! Have some respect for the man’s nostalgia!
marboulette
Can it be ascertained for sure the message is from a guy, not from a girlfriend? Anyway, Im with the crowd shouldn’t be posted here. (shouldnt even have been looked at)
And since when did 30 become the age when people started to lose their mojo?! [/quote]OUCH! Have some respect for the man’s nostalgia!
marboulette[/quote]
Thanks. But I thoroughly enjoyed my earlier years. If I space out too long; I find myself drooling. I just hope like hell that 30+ brings me the same or better.
I see the point about posting here anonymously being an extenuating circumstance. If he was really sure nobody could find out.
But what if somewhere in those messages in Chinese there is enough information, perhaps names and places, for somoeone to figure out who she is or where she works, lives, etc… If you don’t know the content, how can you take such a risk.
Monster, OF COURSE trust is needed both ways, not just for men. How else could a relationship work.
And since when did 30 become the age when people started to lose their mojo?! [/quote]OUCH! Have some respect for the man’s nostalgia!
marboulette[/quote]
Thanks. But I thoroughly enjoyed my earlier years. If I space out too long; I find myself drooling. I just hope like hell that 30+ brings me the same or better.[/quote]
Sorry man, but the 30s are not good news. Soon you’ll be missing hair where you used to be fluffy, and where hair remains it will change color. It’s true, and it’s only the beginning. Things will start to droop and shrivel. You’re fucked and there’s no turning back. Hahahaha! (evil laughter)
In an effort to stay somewhat on topic, I suggest the OP takes a step back to think all of this through because one day you’ll be looking back on all of this… And hopefully, at that time, you’ll know that you made the right decisions…
marboulette
Well, that’s just it. After a bout of being seperated in a long distant relationship; shit went sour. Hardly a surprise. Asia, In my humble opinion, isn’t a place that breeds trust between sexes. Whether it be cross-cultural or not. I mean hell, look around you. All of the obvious signs are there. I’m not saying the West is better but this place, while shit is left unsaid for the most part (seen but not talked about), it’s right in your face with men flaunting their mistresses (extra marital offspring from before mentioned mistresses in some cases), Jo-Dians, and brothels openly displayed. Culturally, without the lovey dovey stuff, Taiwan/Asia is FAAAAR off from where I’m from and what I was raised with.
They say that men will fall in love with a woman that loves them for who they are but women will fall in love with a man who loves them more than the next or previous. I may not have all of the information in this particular situation (see: ass talking), so this dude might be a dog and in that case, what I said earlier holds weight: you get what you attract. In case he isn’t, this is a prime example of the stress not only between two people seperated by distance but of two people from two very seperate upbringings.
Insecurity is something that has to be delt with from within. Not delt with as a couple. You don’t have much to offer if you don’t know yourself and can’t handle who you are. If you bring insecurity to the table then it’s bound to end in disaster. Simple as that.