I’ve been browsing through my friends pics on facebook and I’m just totally gutted. They keep on refreshing their status…then they are meeting up for drinks after work, then they’re going to watch a play, then this, then that.
I used to be very social back home, my door was always open and people were constantly knocking on my door. But Taiwan has made me completely isolated in that sense. I do have friends, but this year most of them (and they have been here for more than 5 yrs) are going back home. And even the friends that I do have, I don’t have that much in common with…great to hang out, but when we do we hardly have the time to just sit and really talk.
I miss having close relationships with people…I feel like I spend most of my time with 5 yr olds…and that it’s robbing my IQ…WHen I do meet interesting people it’s on the weekend and I’m so tired that I struggle to even speak English! Nevermind having a nice meaningful relationship.
GUess I just miss my old job…I used to be the manager of a 24hour coffeeshop across from a drama department at university, so my life was always packed with extremely colorful characters.
ugh…Maybe it’s just the damn rain getting me all moody.[/quote]
my guess is that you are a female furriner? The guy ones are usually thick into the ladies and too busy to mope around?
But that aside Taipei can be lonely . Being a big city and all. What works for me finding friends wise is to keep going to one or two cafes that you like. Make friends with the owners (best if they are around your age, the owners). They have a lot of buds that come around and pretty soon you belong to the select group there . Course if you are a girl you need the right boyfriend and boy the right girlfriend or if you are gay the right S.O. Most people dont realize that the older you get the less time your buds have for you , because even if you lived in a small town. As people get older they usually get a S.O. and most of their time gets tied up with the S.O. And/or kids come along, etc. YOu cant forever be in tune even if u worked at that cafe all your life because as you age out of that college age group, you become less relevant to those who are still in college. So that life you spoke of , that had a short shelf life anyway.
Remember the old saying? No matter how good or bad yesterday was, its over. Tomorrow is not yet here, no matter how good or bad its supposed to be. All you have is today today. And today is important, its the memory you will have tomorrow. So go out there and make it worth remembering?