Most of us worry about something. Some people worry about a lot of things.
In my opinion, unchecked fear is incredibly destructive. The folks I admire most in this world are those who have figured out how to control or eliminate their fears. Alternately, we all know people (perhaps even ourselves) who are ruled by their fears and worries to the extent that they can’t grow as human beings.
So how do you deal with your fears?
My latest strategy for mitigating fear and worry is a variation on something I read in Dale Carnegie’s How to Stop Worrying and Start Living:
I simply assume that I am going to die within the next few hours. Then I think about whether that really scares me or not. When I realize that death isn’t nearly as bad as it’s made out to be, that it is something I’m willing to accept, I then think about the fact that it isn’t likely to happen. Since I’m willing to accept death but it isn’t likely to occur anytime soon, I might as well enjoy life as much as I can. That means not stressing out over things; not letting thoughts of “Oh my God, what if…?” creep in. It doesn’t mean I live the decadent life of a wastrel. I simply try to live in the way that makes me most happy. That means cherishing certain relationships, pursuing achievements, living a healthy lifestyle, stopping to smell the roses, etc.
I am normally a nervous flier. I have spoken with some of you who share the same fear. During my most recent plane flight, using the strategy I described here, I felt calm and relaxed. Slept like a baby most of the way.
Anyone else willing to share their own strategy for dealing with fear and worry?