The poor young girl i was using as a semen depository had a few years on me.
I am open to criticism, but donât expect me to just take all your accusations without responding. I am not in Taiwan just to fuck, but I am a man, so yeahâŚI like to get a little action. I didnât use her for sex, I was completely straightforward. I wanted to date but not get serious, donât tell me youâve never wanted to date without things progressing towards marriage.
I guess the problem is that I assumed she was more western than she actually was. She played herself off as being westernized but when it came down to it, she was very very Taiwanese (not that their is anything wrong with that - I love you yellow bastards)
No one is. Of course you should respond, but donât be so sensitive about it.
[quote]I am not in Taiwan just to fuck, but I am a man, so yeahâŚI like to get a little action. I didnât use her for sex, I was completely straightforward. I wanted to date but not get serious, donât tell me youâve never wanted to date without things progressing towards marriage.
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Nothing wrong with that. My point was if youâre going to do that, take responsibility and live with all posible consequences of your actions. Even girls flipping on you.
Whoâs âyouâ? None of the people who responded in this thread are yellow. Well, I am a bit, but thatâs because I have a liver disorder with symptoms similar to hepatitis. How did you know that? hmmmâŚ
Not all Asian women are victims, you know. If an adult woman gets involved in a sexual relationship with a guy sheâs been seeing for less than a month, then she should be aware of the possiblity that it might not result in marriage. Itâs extremely naive to think that if a guy has sex with a woman, heâs automaticaly going to fall in love with her.
If a woman canât handle sex without an emotional committment, then she should make sure a relationship is stable before jumping into the sack with a guy, which is probably going to take more than a month to determine. On the other hand, some women (yes, even Taiwanese women) might enjoy having a short-term sexual fling. Women have sexual needs, too!
In the case of the OP he says he was clear about his intentions from the get go. If this woman agreed to sex on those terms, then why blame the OP? Sounds like some of you guys are just jumping on the bandwagon of blaming the big bad foreign man corrupting a sweet, innocent Taiwanese girl. Kind of cliched, isnât it?
Tash [quote]Tash âWestern men acting like idiots before, during and after relationships with Taiwaneseâ[/quote]
Well said Tash, although I think when it comes to idiocy (or at least naivety) it takes two to tango.
Now 'fess up. This is a thread in the womenâs forum isnât it? Or something similar. Or else itâs gonna be real soon. Or several hundred threads:)
SuchAFob [quote]Now someone also needs to explain this to local men. Donât date western girls if you want them to look western but donât want them to act it.[quote]
Could also be pointed out to the local ladies in regard to Western men, especially after marriage. (Whoa! Not talking about playing around of which Iâm not in favor of. Iâm referring to cultural differences and ways of thinking in general.)
Cerberus [quote] I dated the girl and made it pretty damn obvious I only wanted something unserious. She knows full well I am moving back home soon and that I am not at a point in my life where I want something more than a little sex. She was cool with thatâŚfor a while then flipped on me.[quote]
Then she either fell in love with you when she didnât expect she would (casual realationships sometimes have unexpected emotional consequences) or else she thought (very naively) that you would automatically fall in love with her. Folks, when people say theyâre just having fun/depositing /accepting semen, donât bank on a change of heart. Another broken heart in a world full of them.
Sandman [quote] Youâre treating some kid as a semen depository for your pleasure, to be discarded when youâre ready to end your âAsian Adventure TMâ and getting pissed when she objects, so forgive us for not having a lot of sympathy for you.[quote]
Iâll cut the op some slack here as he was honest about his intentions (though very naive in his own way) but a lot of men (and quite a few women Iâm willing to bet) arenât. Some people think of sex as a thing for fun others as a serious part of a relationship. Result: as I said, a world full of broken hearts. People need to really figure out what sex means to them and then find out how a potential partner feels.
[quote=âErhuâ]Not all Asian women are victims, you know. If an adult woman gets involved in a sexual relationship with a guy sheâs been seeing for less than a month, then she should be aware of the possiblity that it might not result in marriage. Itâs extremely naive to think that if a guy has sex with a woman, heâs automaticaly going to fall in love with her.
If a woman canât handle sex without an emotional committment, then she should make sure a relationship is stable before jumping into the sack with a guy, which is probably going to take more than a month to determine. On the other hand, some women (yes, even Taiwanese women) might enjoy having a short-term sexual fling. Women have sexual needs, too!
In the case of the OP he says he was clear about his intentions from the get go. If this woman agreed to sex on those terms, then why blame the OP? Sounds like some of you guys are just jumping on the bandwagon of blaming the big bad foreign man corrupting a sweet, innocent Taiwanese girl. Kind of cliched, isnât it?[/quote]
Thank you, I think some of the people here think all Taiwanese women are naive and innocent and totally unable to desire sex unless that sex leads to marriage. That is patronizing pee-la.
So, whatâs that got to do with the price of tea in China? Okay, so you attracted a push over, co-dependant woman. You can find those got-daddy/mama issues women anywhere. So what about you? Itâs you that has the problem. What can YOU be responsible for? You have no control over her behaviour? So, are you gonna step up to the plate and handle your business or continue to come across defensive about whose ârightâ or âwrongâ in this situation?
One big problem dating here is that back home, you can pretty much tell if a person is crazy and thus avoid dating them. Here, because weâre fish out of water, itâs harder to tell. Iâve seen it happen to lots of Western guysâŚthey donât realize that the Taiwanese girl they are dating is a few bricks shy of a load until itâs too late. The language barrier and the cultural difference barrier cause this. Ordinarily you could easily pick up through a conversation and social cues whether a person is going to be a flake or psycho, if you were in your native element.
I donât think only Taiwanese Girls act crazy, insane, or @#($@# during breakups, it could be an Indian girls, England Girls, Japanese Girls, US GirlsâŚ
In general, usually girls / women get more attached faster than men, in addition, they usually feel cheated or being used when it comes to SEXâŚ, like victims⌠hmmâŚ
Maybe next time you should just said that you are looking for a Fk Buddy, to avoid any misunderstanding in the future.
Er⌠this would mean that maturity/immaturity is brought out buy the person youâre with, instead of it being a part of you and you only.
Of course, you might have meant that a childish partner can bring out the childishness in you, or that a mature partner can inspire and help you in your maturing process.
But that doesnât sound as snappy, though, right?