After my previous disastrous relationships with T’weezy girls that I already complained about at length I finally met someone I really like who doesn’t drive me nuts (yet). We went on a few dates then spent a weekend together and I was feeling tentatively but excitedly positive about her.
Now bearing in mind that she lives two hours’ drive away and I live in the middle of nowhere, you can imagine my surprise when she called me two days later to say she was outside. I thought my Chinese was just being dodgy with me but I looked out of the window and there she was. I was freaking out but calmed down a little bit when I noticed she’d brought a veritable feast including my favourite food (dao sha mian). I was in the middle of a work project at the time so decided to flag this as ‘what the fuck?’ for future contemplation in my brain and went back upstairs to work.
By the time I’d finished I’d calmed down a lot and saw that she was now mopping the kitchen floor as an emergency ant control measure. I decided that I was actually pretty impressed that she could read a map and find my place on her own. Not to be patronising, but I’m sure I don’t need to say anything about Taiwanese and maps. I also decided that despite the weirdness of turning up unannounced from so far away after such a brief dating period I was quite pleased to see her. After we finished lunch she did say that she would bugger off if she was in my way and that she came over because she wouldn’t be able to see me for the next two weeks. As my psycho xiaojie alert subsided I thought it was sweet that she wanted to surprise me and remembered that I always have to eat late because of work AND brought the all-important dao sha mian. She ended up staying overnight and cooking me dinner, which makes a very nice change from my usual role of Japanese Housewife where I’m doing the modern man thing of cooking and cleaning.
If this WAS a bit weird then I can’t wait to see how much weirder she gets.
Yep. Turning up unannounced bearing food and a kiss…They’re wierd that way.
My SO sometimes turns up at my house to wake me up with breakfast. She even comes to my house to keep me company when I’m busy but it’s just nice to have someone around. And sometimes, when I get engrossed in something and forget to go out to get something to eat, she brings me dinner. When we go out, she never insists that I pay for everything. These things, and many other countless little things she does, lets me know she loves me. She cares. And if these things make her wierd, I don’t want her any other way.
I love and appreciate my “wierd” Taiwanese SO.
I hope things keep going just as (wierdly) well for you too, llary.
It’s a bit weird to me how being considerate and thoughtful can be thought of as weird. Then again, I see quite a few of my N. American friends lacking the same sensitivity. Not to say they aren’t generous or kind or lacking in civility, but just pops up in different circumstances.
Many can not use one to save their life, they will think you’re a genious if you can read one. I usually stay away from the sweeping statements, but I’ve come across this one more than thrice.
I hate to go any further OT but it’s more than just maps MTK, it’s the lack of any sense of direction whatsoever. My wife (bless her) is hopeless. I swear that if I took her outside our apartment building, blindfolded her and turned her around three times on the spot, she’d never find her own way home.
The usual answer to the map issue is, “but I got a mouth, why do I need a map?” Interestingly, the phenomenon is the same for Thais. Miss Huang was in stitiches when I told her the Taiwanese view on maps, unfortunatekly I was driving on the way from Bangkok to Hua Hin at the time and really needed a left or right call.
Guys, get realistic. They are not wierd, thet are just suspicious and checking on you! Just make sure, that you don’t have another girl conforting you.
Whatever else goes on, its nice that you think you have found someone acceptable. We all knew you could do it, and I’m sure she has quite a catch on her hands. Well done that man, and keep us posted.
Guys, get realistic. They are not wierd, thet are just suspicious and checking on you! Just make sure, that you don’t have another girl conforting you.[/quote]
Truer words have never been spoken.
Showing up anannounced bearing gifts = making sure you don’t have another girlfriend, and letting you know they’ll catch you if you do.
Cleaning your apartment = looking for evidence, porn, girls’ phone numbers, matches from hotels, anything they can use to start a fight so you have to “make up” to them.
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Showing up anannounced bearing gifts = making sure you don’t have another girlfriend, and letting you know they’ll catch you if you do.
Cleaning your apartment = looking for evidence, porn, girls’ phone numbers, matches from hotels…[/quote]Hate to burst your bubble Llary, but there’s a better than even chance this is the answer. Sometimes I forget how awful the whole dating scene is.
Don’t think Taiwanese girls are the only ones. Some Mexican girls are the same way. Just better at not being so obvious about it. My sister in law. Oh my. The tricks she has taught me. I could work for the CIA.
It’s the hairs, they know the length and tint, they’ll betray you every time.
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Yes not many shoulder length hair with blonde roots on Taiwan either. That confrontation still gives me nightmares. But there is always the “language exchange” excuse.
If what she did was genuine and not an inspection, then I envy you sir!
Sounds like you found what could end up being a keeper. I dont want to go on a rant about how unhappy I am; however,let me say that what you found seems to be hard to find. I’d love for once to not be the one doing the cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc…or at least 50/50. Andperhaps just once a sweet thoughtful surprise. maybe im just dreaming
maybe im just dreaming