Taiwanese wedding traditions?

Life Dating & Relationships
#1

I recently got engaged and we are planning on marrying in Hawaii with just immediate family only (my parents flying from Australia and his from the US).

Because all my extended family are in Taiwan, we are considering having a second reception there (and possibly earning the down payment to our house).

What can you tell me about Taiwanese wedding traditions? I remember when I was young I used to love going to weddings there because I loved the food… but the older I got, the tackier they seemed to become… bad karaoke, sloppy powerpoint presentations, poorly dressed guests, etc). I’m scared, I don’t want a wedding reception like that :laughing:

(I know, I could ask my parents… but that’s another story…)

#2

[quote=“She”]What can you tell me about Taiwanese wedding traditions?
…
(I know, I could ask my parents… but that’s another story…)[/quote]There’s a third option: the search function.
Wedding traditions threads here:
forumosa.com/taiwan/viewtopic.php?t=49198
forumosa.com/taiwan/viewtopic.php?t=9557

And two threads focused more on the money side of things:
forumosa.com/taiwan/viewtopic.php?t=46230
forumosa.com/taiwan/viewtopic.php?t=43324

#3

Don’t think there’s much you can do about the sloppily dressed guests without alienating your extended family, but the rest is really up to you. I’m sure no-one will be surprised if a reception for two out-of-Taiwaners is a little different to what they’re used to.
As long as you don’t choose to have it in one of those “wedding factory”-type restaurants then you’ll be calling the shots. I had mine at the top of the Far Eastern Mall, for example, and I’ve been told it was quite a good “do” – I can’t vouch for anything that happened after about 7:30pm but I know we didn’t get home until around 3am.

#4

Thank you for the links :slight_smile:

#5

Save your money for the cake.
I still get wistful when I realize that I sold my vintage Volkswagen bug just to buy a few guests some dessert! The other lowlight was the wedding studio/photo shoot/bridal makeup thing. I was planning on renting a suit or having one made up, but when I saw the local styles… shiny black polyester disasters, I opted for the conservative grey wool suit I brought from home, rather than risk looking like some sort of Liberace undertaker. There is no tux rental here to my knowledge, and no Salvatore Armani either (Salvation Army thrift shop).
Originally my wife wanted one of those take-a-bunch-of-pictures-dress-you-up-in three-different-outfits-pose-you-out-at-Zhong-Shan-Da-Xue-like-you-are-some-kind-of-movie-star-and make-a-photo-album-out-of-it sort of things, but I insisted instead on a few simple poses. The photographer asked me if I was a German… I guess he didn’t really understand how annoyed I was with his stupid ke-ai ideas about how we should pose. In the end it was a waste of time, because we only got one decent picture out of the whole thing, and it wasted a huge amount of time and made us late for the reception, and what a makeup job on my wife, oh dear!
Upon arrival, the wife and her Ma squabbled in Taiwanese, while I slinked off to the table where my beer was waiting for me. The stinkfish course of the twelve-course banquet had already been served, so being late was a blessing in disguise, however stressful. After eating just a little bit, we were back up on our feet and making toasts at each table while Ma and siblings stood with us and kept all the glasses full.
The good parts were having my brother-inlaw chauffer us around for the day, he works in Beijing and we don’t get to see him very often, and the proceedings at the banquet were fun but didn’t drag on forever. At the close of the banquet, all the guests exited and we stood to see them off. I had a tray of cigarettes, and had to light them for those who accepted, and my wife had a tray of candy for the guests. We have a lot of great pictures from the banquet (much better than anything we could make in a studio IMHO) and I met a lot of my wife’s relatives and local friends.
Have a great wedding! :slight_smile:

#6

LOL! thanks for sharing!

How many hours do these banquets typically last anyway?

I know it must sound selfish of me but my parents have been to many many of these in the past and have had to give money each time. I kinda feel it’s my right to recieve something in return.

but ultimately, I think if we can’t plan to have it our way, a dinner with the relatives would be good enough :slight_smile:

#7

[quote=“She”]LOL! thanks for sharing!

How many hours do these banquets typically last anyway?

I know it must sound selfish of me but my parents have been to many many of these in the past and have had to give money each time. I kinda feel it’s my right to recieve something in return.

but ultimately, I think if we can’t plan to have it our way, a dinner with the relatives would be good enough :slight_smile:[/quote]
Don’t hold your breath thinking you’ll make a lot of money at the reception, unless you’re not paying for the reception yourself and you get to keep the money from the guests. The money from the guests go towards paying for the banquet. Some come out with a surplus, some come out with a deficit.

#8

from 7 to 9 PM

#9

[quote=“She”]I know it must sound selfish of me but my parents have been to many many of these in the past and have had to give money each time. I kinda feel it’s my right to recieve something in return

Because all my extended family are in Taiwan, we are considering having a second reception there (and possibly earning the down payment to our house). [/quote]

the very reason why weddings make me sick
it’s all about money it seems :noway: