How do you all respond when you are out to dinner and a local person, thinking you don’t understand Chinese, lambastes you, your companions, or both? It seems that my local friends, and girlfriend, are the primary targets when this happens (“chung yang” is the most frequent criticism). I become a secondary target.
I’m familiar with the motivations behind these behaviors (tribalism, insecurity, drunkeness). I have also developed a way of dealing with this that allows me to end the bullshit and get on with the evening without resorting to violence. I’m curious about how you all handle this. Please share.