Hello everyone,
I am a Taiwanese girl…
and I found myself in love with an old friend who has a girlfriend already.
I have been suffering from wheather should I keep hanging out with him or not, talking to him so often, or not at all.
I expect for more than just friends. Somehow, I don’t have the encourage to let him know my feelings, because I know he doesn’t feel the same to me.
What you would do, if you were me? 
[quote], because I know he doesn’t feel the same to me.
What you would do, if you were me?[/quote]
You know this for a fact? Then I’d let it go. Plenty more fish in the sea.
So, he’s got a girlfriend… he isn’t married. Is his girlfriend also a friend of yours? Do you owe it to her to stand aside? Why not give him a choice?
Well, if you quit hanging out with him, you’ll be less than “just friends”–you’ll be old friends who never see each other… so it seems silly to stop spending time together… unless you’re REALLY uncomfortable and need a break to get over it.
If you know he doesn’t then you have to decide whether or not you want to encourage him to feel the same way. Maybe he’s never thought of you as more than a friend, but if you encourage him to do so he might start to think that it’s a great idea.
Are you willing to take a chance by being more aggressive?
Are you willing to wait and see what happens?
[quote=“kk”]Hello everyone,
I am a Taiwanese girl…
and I found myself in love with an old friend who has a girlfriend already.
I have been suffering from wheather should I keep hanging out with him or not, talk to him so often, or not at all.
I expect for more than just friends. Somehow, I don’t have the encourage to let him know my feelings, because I know he doesn’t feel the same to me.
What you would do, if you were me? [/quote]
KK, the facts are that he is taken. You like him and he likes you as a friend. But, why tell him how you feel if he already has a GF? Why complicate things?
Then even if he left her for you, you’d be worried that he’d leave you for someone new…right?
Let him go. If he gets back on the market in the future…if you still feel the same way about him…make your move. Lightning usually doesn’t strike the same place twice. Good luck.
Peace
and welcome to Forumosa
jds
welcome squad 
Why do I get a feeling this a car accident waiting to happen?
You know people might be serious hurt in a car accident, but you just can’t help yourself to look.
In any case, I would avoid the car accident and just expand my circle of friends. There a plenty of other people who deserve your attention as well.
But then again, some people like car accidents… :loco:
I think you should look for someone who doesn’t already have a girlfriend. If he did leave her for you, he would leave you for someone else. And you would have too much drama in your life for having him. No man is worth all that.
drama + love = bad news
Wow. Haven’t any of you ever stolen somebody’s guy/gal?
Yes…but how many have had it turn out great??
Nope. Had mine stolen before. But never stolen. Don’t think a man is worth all that.
Nope. Had mine stolen before. But never stolen. Don’t think a man is worth all that.[/quote]
how sad. 
I am guessing you DO think a man is worth all that. If we are ever in the same bar and my S.O. is with me, I will be watching you!! 
Why is there no threatening emoticon??
“Tell me what should I do?..”
Usually, titles like this make me clap my hands and make seal noises in joy, but unfortunately, after reading the actual post, I feel more pity than mischief.
Don’t mess with the relationship. It’s a no win situation. You either suffer the heartache of unrequited love or you win a brand new shiny significant other with a history of breaking relationships to enter new ones! YAY FOR YOU!
Yes…but how many have had it turn out great??[/quote]
I know a few of us who got married that way… works out for some 
I never think of stealing him from his gf (I don’t know who she is) and I don’t think he is that kind of person who is stealable. He is belongs to himself, and I just can’t help caring about him more than just a friend.
What I concern is if should I keep the friendship with him still. I don’t want to lose a close friend, sepecially not many of them left and he is the closest one, but I also don’t want to keep making myslef surferring from the pains anymore. I actually tried couple times of not contacting with him for a period, but it failed in the long run. It’s just so hard to me.
Tks you all for the really great advices. They really help. I think I will try again - release myself from him…
On that note, my best friend at home is someone I harbored feelings for for about 5 years before I got over them. He stayed my best friend throughout it all. It took much effort to never let him know, but keeping the friendship was worth it all.
Not to be a pain or question your choices, but most of my closest, dearest friends are ex-girlfriends. I don’t believe you need to choose one path or the other.
長痛不如短痛
[quote=“Jaboney”]Wow. Haven’t any of you ever stolen somebody’s guy/gal?[/quote]No, but the reverse happening to me twice…one being a close friend of mine (but not after that). 
If he were available, I’d say go for it, but since he’s attached, you might risk your friendship with him if you push him too much. Keep in mind, he might not be interested in the kind of girl who would steal someone’s boyfriend so it could totally backfire on you.
It’s already a difficult situation since he doesn’t seem interested. It could only become worse if trying to get in between him and is girlfriend causes a schizm between him and you instead. Don’t do it.
well, you know he is not interested, so you have to let it go, don’t lose the friendship, but let yourself go for at least a little while.