These are powerful stories, and I fully support you and your colleagues reporting this man. It is common sense that you do not shit where you eat. Based on this obvious fact, at-work relations or harassment should be off limits or in the former handled very, very carefully (known a few people that married coworkers). Outside of work though, it is more shades of grey. My critique of some parts of MeToo is similar to French actress Catherine Deneuve. I think so much of it reeks of North American puritanism and special interests that are more interested in conflict than diversity, fairplay and cooperation. They are ignoring the together we are better mantra. It is why I agree with the speech of Senator Collins 100 percent. One of the best speeches I have ever heard.
Here is what Deneuve said a while back:
Deneuve made headlines in January when she joined 99 other women in signing their names to a letter in Le Monde that criticized the Me Too movement and its French counterpart, Balance Ton Porc, claiming that the campaigns infantilize women and contribute to a climate of sexual puritanism and totalitarian thinking. A backlash ensued, and Deneuve responded with a letter of her own, in another French daily newspaper, Libération , stating that while she stood by the original statement, she did not condone sexual abuse or misconduct. “I salute all female victims of odious acts who may have felt aggrieved by the letter in Le Monde . It is to them and them alone that I apologize.”
“I’ve always been on the side of women,” Deneuve tells me. That said, she believes that there’s a blurred line between power and seduction: “Desire is at the heart of many creative professions, like film, music, and fashion photography. The challenge is to know the limit and to understand the difference between flirting and going too far.” As she sees it, the best way forward is to “require all companies to have a code of conduct. And I think it’s time to start in schools. Boys try to seduce girls, and sometimes they are too forceful, so it’s very much a question of education.”