Here’s a vexing problem: The Taiwanese don’t like to say “no”, so they say nothing and leave you guessing.
I’m learning Mandarin and ask Taiwanese people, at random, to meet me and help me with converstation and pronunciation. I understand if they can’t do it, obviously, because it’s an imposition on some. However, others are thrilled to help and perhaps exchange language tips.
So there’s this sweet young gal in one of my adult classes who said she would love to meet me and help. So we set up a time, and it falls through. No problem, I say, we’ll try again. But this time, I begin with a friendly mention that, if in fact she does not want to meet me, I completely understand. No, she says, she would love to meet me. So again we set up a contact time in the morning to firm up a meeting place around lunchtime.
So I text her cell and nothing. Nada. Zip. Almost two hours goes by and I finally call her. “Oh sorry,” she says. “I’m at XXXX place and blah blah blah…yada yada.” So I’m confused why she didn’t reply to my text saying the same thing. Then she says she can meet me, but much later and certainly with little time for me to make it to my afternoon class, which she knows of.
Despite this, I agree because I really enjoy Mandarin and am advancing at a resonable rate. Then I think: forget it. This gal is giving my the soft kiss off. If she wanted to meet me she would have at least replied to my text because she knew we had set up a time, and suggested another time or at least cancelled. The thing is, I had to call HER to find out why she wouldn’t answer my text.
Why can’t these people just say NO?! Why must they upset someone’s limited free time just because they are afraid to say no? I gave this gal ample opportunity to decline, yet she assured me she wanted to do it. Then at the 11th hour, she’s all apologetic and full of excuses. Because of this idiot, I missed a chance to speak Mandarin with someone else.
Sorry but I had to vent. What is it with some of these people?