She has been here exactly three months now. And I would say she is adjusting very well, making good progress. For someone from SE ASia who had never previously been anywhere further then Singapore, and Malaysia. LIving in the Bay Area is very very different from life in Jakarta.
She has actually even lost weight, which pleases her. I think shes down from 100 pounds to 95 pounds. I lost a bit of weight with her cooking (hot indo food) but now my body has gotten used to it and no matter what i do it seems impossible for me to get below 220 pounds.
Waiting for the green card. HOpe we get it soon. She’s anxious to return for a few months to visit her family, who she misses dearly.
Funny before she was asking me daily to push for the visa as she was “getting bored” in Jakarta. NOw she pines for the place. I guess you need to be away to realize what home means. And for us non indonesians, it may be hard to miss Jakarta. I always said, based on the few times I have been there, why would anyone want to visit jakarta at all? I don’t see any attractions to jakarta. BAli, probably. Jakarta? Don’t bother. What is there to see ? Nothing rings a bell for me on that . Taipei is no Paris but at least there’s a lot to do right near the city. Jakarta has what? BAndung? 2 plus hours drive away? I don’t think I could love Jakarta with its interminable traffic jams. I guess one would have to be indonesian to appreciate that city.
Eventually ,hopefully, “home” will become the Bay Area to her. IT will take many many years.
She came via EVA. WE are planning on her flying SQ back. SQ has decent prices for 1st quarter 2014 (assuming we get her green card by then, which we may not). Usually SQ is more expensive then EVA but now they are priced very similar to each other. DUe to different taxation her 90 day roundtrip from sF to JKT and back will be around 1100, less then the one way from JKT to SF on EVA cost me !
The EVA timing and routing is actually better, but its good to let her try something new.
IT will be her first time on SQ. First time landing in KOrea (even if its only 2 hours refueling stop in INchon). And in Singapore she can be met by a sister living in Batam. She can over nite there and take the late afternoon flight to Jakarta. This allows a nice rest from a long long journey. IT will be something like 12 hours to Seoul, 2 hours on the ground, then another 6 or so hours to Singapore. Arriving around 1am.
I wonder if SQ will pick up the tab for the hotel? I think probably not at low fare pricing.
But she will enjoy a nite in Singapore on the way home and a nite on her way back to SanFRan. It is a very long ways from Jakarta to/from San Francisco.
I think a two month or so return to her land will be a very good thing. Shes buying small gifts for her family in preparation.
In 3 months we accomplished what we had to do in that period. Get married and file the papers to keep her stay here legal, or else her three months would’ve been up and she would be out of here in order to stay legal. An overstay would have occurred if the green card papers had not been filed by now. This would make her an illegal and it would be really hard to get back on track.
And it’s a good thing we did not delay, as 3 months went by pretty fast!
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