If there is any trait I find here it is not the traits Chinese claim(humility, respect(Koreans love that word but only when it means you respect them)), but trickiness. They teach this starting from a young age. Learning it seems as important as learning math. Even the use euphemisms (guanxi instead of the actual defining word - “nepotism”) is yet another use of sleight of hand - to cover tracks. I’d have to think a long time to think of 5 Chinese/Taiwanese who are ‘1 is 1, 2 is 2’ people out of the thousands I’ve met.
A talent for guile, chicanery, and passive-aggressive behavior seems to be inherent in the Chinese (and Korean) character. Dealing with it makes learning the language look like a piece of cake. Have you gotten better at dealing with or avoiding this?
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