The fiction section of any US library, and many corners of the Internet, are rife with the rants of American-born-and-raised kids of Asian immigrant parents, who have severe anxiety and identity issues stemming from the fact that they’re subjected to one set of cultural rules and expectations out in the larger world, but an entirely different (in some cases OPPOSITE) set at home.
Does it go the other way? That is, if I, a white American, were to marry a white American woman and we moved to Taiwan to raise a child, sending him/her to local schools / buxibans / extracurriculars / sports leagues and encouraging them to make Taiwanese friends, would this child likely run into the same types of identity crises that 2nd generation Asian-Americans so frequently do? If so, about what age / grade level would this likely become most acute?
I ask because this is a very possible situation. I’m now living back in the states, and seriously dating a woman who is, like me, a serious world traveler. We are both convinced that if we get married and have a child, we do NOT want to raise that child in the US. I have lived in Taiwan, and have friends there, both foreign and local, that would gladly help us get set up there. My girlfriend does not speak Chinese. I do.
I assme we’d fall into the pattern of English in the home, Chinese outside. I’d want to live in a regular middle class Taiwanese neighborhood, with Taiwanese neighbors, rather than in a secluded residential area marketed to foreigners.
Can any foreigners who are or have been in this situation comment? What particular pitfalls would we as a family need to watch out for?