We have all heard the line I’m saying it because I care haven’t we? Yet is this an apologists line for just being a darn stickybeak?
Today I had a very close friend tell me that person isn’t the right one for you. Of course it came with the tired cliches. [color=#0000FF]I’m not trying to stir up trouble.[/color] [color=#40BF00]I am only telling you as a friend.[/color] [color=#FF0000]Now don’t be angry but… [/color]
The situation has made me feel sad inside. At what point is unsolicited advice from friends warranted or indeed welcomed? I for one feel like breaking a certain friends jaw for them and pointing out You don’t really want to get near my fist while I’m swinging. I’m just telling you because I care.
It was really OK for this person to go ahead and tell me what I should be doing with my life according to them. Yet when I expressed my vexation I was roundly bricked in by the old I am only saying it because I care defence.
How do you feel about people telling you how to live your life especially when that person is close to you? For me it is one of life’s biggest tragedies that we can’t live and let live. And once hurt is it acceptable to intentionally hurt them back? I felt like saying to my friend You are the worst player on our team and we have been carrying you and your crappy defending for 3 years now. And it is no good saying that friends like that aren’t worth having. You don’t throw away friendships over such crass behaviour but gosh darn it I could do with some other thoughts on the matter before I throw a few lagers into the system and wake the beast.
I am slightly accustomed to this site now so I shall presume that the 90-10 ratio of crud to useful comments rule will be adhered to.