[quote=“Stray Dog”]Where can I find a fun, relaxed, loving, affectionate, pretty, outgoing, animal-loving, understanding, sharing, decent woman?
Thanks.[/quote]Sorry mate, but at your age, I would recommend changing “pretty” for “well preserved.” 
My first reaction was: “You have GOT to be kidding me. This guy doesn’t have them lining up to date him?”
Then it occurred to me that you might not know the secret to attracting the kind of woman you want.
So Dr. Tomas has three questions for you:
- Is meeting the type of woman you describe a deep longing or just something you’d like to see happen?
- Are the hurts of the past (everyone carries them) still fresh or have they scarred over?
- Do you normally signal a potential girlfriend/mate to let her know you’re interested? How is that signal expressed?
You don’t have to answer publicly. You’re smarter than most, so you’ll figure out what I’m getting at.
Frankly, a bloke like you shouldn’t need to do anything other than maintain a pulse and live as you normally do to have his choice of good women, but if that isn’t working, it could be that you haven’t figured out the secret yet or forgotten it.
Give up on the leg-humping. It puts a lot of women off.
Ditto on crotch sniffing.
That’s not true; they love that.
That’s not true; they love that.[/quote]
Perhaps after you’ve said hello.
I think the inhouse stray needs to get his walks more.
Meeting good women is not an issue in Taiwan, but I gather that you are not really into the bar scene.
[quote=“Tomas”]My first reaction was: “You have GOT to be kidding me. This guy doesn’t have them lining up to date him?”
Then it occurred to me that you might not know the secret to attracting the kind of woman you want.
So Dr. Tomas has three questions for you:
- Is meeting the type of woman you describe a deep longing or just something you’d like to see happen?
- Are the hurts of the past (everyone carries them) still fresh or have they scarred over?
- Do you normally signal a potential girlfriend/mate to let her know you’re interested? How is that signal expressed?
You don’t have to answer publicly. You’re smarter than most, so you’ll figure out what I’m getting at.
Frankly, a bloke like you shouldn’t need to do anything other than maintain a pulse and live as you normally do to have his choice of good women, but if that isn’t working, it could be that you haven’t figured out the secret yet or forgotten it.[/quote]
No, it’s a lot simpler than that. I think I’ve figured it out, finally: if you like somebody, you should actually walk up and try starting to talk to them.
No, really. The whole problem with “nice guys” is that they don’t know how to approach women comfortably. There’s 90% of the problem right there.
If you don’t come across as either a sleazy creep or a socially awkward weirdo, but as a genuine person who is friendly and interested in her, then you shouldn’t have any problems attracting women. Unless you really are as ugly as they say you are…
This is true, and how I met my husband. We actually met in a pub, too. He came up and talked to me, and we ended up chatting with each other the entire night. We made a date for the next day, and the rest is history. We got married one year later.
But, I think that meeting someone special can be more difficult in Taiwan when you consider cultural differences, language barriers, different expectations, etc. with Taiwanese women, and the pool of available foreign women in Taiwan is relatively small.
So, my advice to you is to leave the country. 
try to be genuine friends with as many potentials as possible. observe how they treat people. get in annoying, high-pressure situations and see how they act, get in unbelievably boring situations and see if you can still enjoy each other’s company. cast your net far and wide. go through as many as possible. if you don’t find a romantic partner you may at least get a couple of loyal friends out of it, which wouldn’t be a waste. but this would probably only work if you could keep your hormones from clouding your thinking- something i can finally do in middle age- but couldn’t do before. as for looks: a handsome man/beautiful woman you come to find is a selfish a-hole gets ugly fast: but if you only want to use them for a short time, it should be no problem: .