OK, so is it true that Taiwanese men will ‘give more’ to Foreign girlfriends than native girlfriends? Will Taiwanese men treat foreign girlfriends better? More patience? More motivation? Less attitude, and better sex?
You mean in the context of a Xiao Lao Po. I’ll be honest most Chinese men would be hard press to give their family name to a foreigner g/f. The country is very much male dominent.
What about a foreign wife?
tigerman,
Don’t know many Taiwanese men with foreign wives in Taiwan. The couples I know are all abroad for good reason.
The pressures of being a son in a Chinese family are really large. I’ve seen many a promising couples in Taiwan split up due to this pressure.
There is also the large stigma attached to foreign wives in Taiwan; like the Philippines, China, Vietnam, etc.
I mean for the most part Taiwanese guys are looking for very traditional family oriented females to marry. If a western woman also shares these values I don’t see why a union could not happen.
But it is a very broad and touchy subject.
Since we will inevitably touch on the subject
I only started this thread to counter the one that cordellesi started about Taiwanese women. It’s an interesting topic though. How are Taiwanese as boyfriends?
Most of the Taiwanese guys who’ve shown interest in me have been very traditional and seemed only interested in the novelty of having a foreign girlfriend. It was pretty obvious that they weren’t really interested in my charming personality.
I have some male Taiwanese friends who are really nice and interesting guys, but they have all spent a considerable amount of time in the U.S.
Interestingly enough I’m finding that men in mainland China can be a lot less traditional than their Taiwan compatriots. I’ve had a lot of interest from mainland Chinese guys in their early 20’s. They tell me they want a woman who is driven and independent and I really get the sense that they are genuine about this. I’ve met lots of Mainland women with very good careers and personalities that are pretty “lihai”. They definately hold their own with their men!
Cheating, although I’m sure it happens, doesn’t seem to be as universally accepted in the mainland as it is in Taiwan. It always amazes me how most Taiwanese women I talk to see a cheating boyfriend/spouse as inevitable and thus they just accept it.
I’ve gotten into so many debates with Taiwanese (men and women) about this issue of cheating, but they refuse to change their opinion. They just say “that’s the way things are”. They adamently assert that all men cheat while maintaining that women should never ever cheat. Makes no sense to me.
I find some Taiwanese men attractive, but I don’t think I could accept a man with that kind of mentality. I wonder if any foreign women have had good experiences with Taiwanese boyfriends?
Well I’m married to a Taiwanese man and it’s never been a problem for his family. They welcomed me to their home immediatly and have been wonderful ever since. They do not treat me as a ‘novelty’ just like a member of the family.
My husband was also never in it for the novelty factor. A mutal friend introduced us and it was pretty much love at first sight, within a month we knew we would marry.
He is a rather traditional guy in that he is very family oriented but so am I. I stay home and take care of the kids and he works to support us, it’s an arrangement we are both very happy with. Also he would never consider cheating on me! He values our family too much plus he knows he’d very likely lose the ability to have sex ever again if I found out!
I know several other women also married to local guys but I don’t know their situations, maybe they’d like to speak up too?
Erhu,
When I was younger I met a girl attending college in taiwan whose goal was be a “xiao lao po,” a mistress. I was like you’re joking right. You come from the best girl high school in Taiwan, attend one of the best university in Taiwan, and your career goal is to a mistress. Sure enough we kept in touch after college she became some boss’ mistress for 3 years. Went on expensive vacations, got a car and a condo. Broke up with him because he wasn’t going to leave his wife, or she was getting too old. Finally settled down with a nice guy last time we kept in touch.
Then a few years back I remember placing an ad for a secretary in the local papers. Typical executive assistant type responsibility that one would have in the USA. I did not know this but that’s code in Taiwan for a mistress position. Girls showed up in skimpy outfits asking all sort of personal questions. I had to get a referral from a family friend for the position instead.
I don’t know if the Mainland is any better, but hk and ROC executives in PRC are doing the same thing I’m pretty sure. And like they say the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree. Japan, Hk, and ROC cultural are all derivations of Mainland culture when it comes to “infidelity”
Sound like you were in Shanghai usually people who want a “lihai” girl wants someone that can do business and help start a family business or very career orientated women as partners in life.
Do you wish to settle down with a Chinese person?
I mean for the most part the “male” version of this thread is about a bunch of male expats with Chinese gf. Half of them married a Taiwanese girl. The other half is probably going to fly away next month, and tell their buddy back home how they were “Charisma man” in Taiwan.
What was the “rule of 3” for men and women. You divide by 3 when a guy tell you how many people they been with, and multiply by 3 when a girl tell you how many people they been with. 