[quote=“jwbrunken”]Wow, judging from the first-hand experience of some of these posters, it sounds hopeless for my daughter. She was born in the States, but we moved here when she was 3 months old. She’ll be speaking soon. My wife and I speak about 90% English in the home, but her daycare is all in Chinese and Taiwanese. When she reaches preschool age, since she is in Taiwan, I plan to send her to an English environment to learn the basics and for the early reenforcement. Then, it will be off to Taiwanese public school, to learn to read and write Chinese, and dear old dad will continue the English instruction.
Our plan was to head back Stateside once she was out of elementary school, thinking that would be enough to retain her Chinese, but maybe we’ll have to stay longer. I guess there is no easy way out for this. I’m interest to hear other people’s stories.[/quote]
JWB, I think if your daughter were to finish grade 6 in Taiwan (that would be 11-12 years old), she should have a solid enough foundation that if the language is still used in the home, she should be able to maintain enough to be able to carry on a fairly decent conversation. Reading can be kept up with interesting materials although the writing may fade quite quickly. However, both can also be relearned quite quickly as well because she will have had that foundation.
I think it you do move back, it’s important to stick to a very strict OPOL strategy (as discussed in the language of eloquence thread). OPOL has worked very well in our home and our sons know instinctively to only speak one language to dad, one language to mom (neither are English), and English outside the home.
Maintaining and improving on a foreign language for your child is very hard work and in my opinion, is 90% dependent on the efforts of the parents. Bababa correctly states that the primary reason kids do not retain their native tongue(s) is due to the parents not making sufficient effort to do so. One shouldn’t underestimate this effort for it is quite onerous as I’m finding out first hand. When your kid spends most of the day at school, comes home, has homework, has sports, maybe has music lessons, maybe has other extracurricular activities, and maybe you even take the kids to church on Sundays, when will you have time to slot in some extra Chinese lessons? When you are tired from work and household chores, when things get busy, when you’re in a bad mood, “optional” items such as learning a foreign language at home is typically cast by the wayside. If you have more than one child, this becomes even harder. Often, parents toss the child into weekend Chinese school and just hope for the best. The important thing to do, imo, is to view the maintenance and advancement of the foreign language as mandatory rather than optional or nice-to-have. If you view it as important as the primary language of society, or science, or math, then you’ll do what’s necessary for your child to succeed. If you view it as something you can leave to weekend Chinese school, then really, all is lost.