Of course you’re right Miaka that your friend’s answer is stupid. It just means when she gets dumped or her bf cheats on her or disappoints her she will be unhappy, and such events are inevitable.
I like your answers better. Definitely health is a biggie. After a few months slacking off, I’ve started riding a bike and it feels great. But of course health could result in disappointment. One can become injured or stricken with a horrible disease. So even depending on health for happiness is a little iffy.
Same for friends and family. I hate to say it in this superstitious land, but ones friends can desert one and ones family members can die. Nothing is permanent. That is why buddha said that one should learn to desire nothing. As long as we need something – even such wholesome things as health, family and friends – to make us happy we will inevitably be disappointed because nothing lasts forever.
Consequently, buddhists say, one should learn to desire nothing, but simply live in the present moment, aware of the present and be happy with everything (raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens, etc.). That philosophy does make sense. But without health, family and friends, life wouldn’t be quite the same. And if you let me pick a fourth I’d have to throw in good food.
Hairy Man? Why don’t you send a PM to almasjohn?