I know, this is such a general question but I got a girl said, boyfriend, boyfriend and boyfriend. Makes me sad to hear that when her happiness depends on another person…
what are your answers?? and this is a serious question, since I am searching for the soul answer as well.
Thanks
Entirely a state of mind, my dear. It is a fallacy to think that anything, or anyone, can “make” you happy. The stuff of sappy movies.
Not that I don’t enjoy certain things in life, but you don’t really need anything to be happy. You just have to create it yourself. It is entirely a choice.
well, aren’t you happy being alive? being healthy, have a great family, good career…etc…
well, that was the answer I though ppl would say…
Judging by Miakaw’s recent posts, I think her three happiness-inducing things must be meat and two veg. Sorry, this was supposed to be a serious question, wasn’t it?
So I’d have to agree wholeheartedly with Tomas, with the addition that feelings change – one day I might be happy solving problems, getting out and about, meeting people, etc. The next, I might be just as happy to sit on the couch all day wallowing in misery.
[quote=“MiakaW”]well, aren’t you happy being alive? being healthy, have a great family, good career…etc…
well, that was the answer I though ppl would say…[/quote]
I should have more fun with my answer. Okay, here’s three things that make it impossible for me not to smile:
I’m no Omniloquacious, but I do okay 
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Eating, sex, sleeping. Not necessarily in that order.
Now this thread kind of reminds me a thread that started a while back…
well, my answers would be
My not so serious answers (Miaka’s style)
Anyone else?
Of course you’re right Miaka that your friend’s answer is stupid. It just means when she gets dumped or her bf cheats on her or disappoints her she will be unhappy, and such events are inevitable.
I like your answers better. Definitely health is a biggie. After a few months slacking off, I’ve started riding a bike and it feels great. But of course health could result in disappointment. One can become injured or stricken with a horrible disease. So even depending on health for happiness is a little iffy.
Same for friends and family. I hate to say it in this superstitious land, but ones friends can desert one and ones family members can die. Nothing is permanent. That is why buddha said that one should learn to desire nothing. As long as we need something – even such wholesome things as health, family and friends – to make us happy we will inevitably be disappointed because nothing lasts forever.
Consequently, buddhists say, one should learn to desire nothing, but simply live in the present moment, aware of the present and be happy with everything (raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens, etc.). That philosophy does make sense. But without health, family and friends, life wouldn’t be quite the same. And if you let me pick a fourth I’d have to throw in good food.
Hairy Man? Why don’t you send a PM to almasjohn?
I’m starting to see why that crotchety old pope beautified you Mother Theresa. Will you change your moniker to Saint Theresa soon?
Agree with your post. Attachment is the path to misery. But then again a load of loot dropping out of the sky . . . that could certainly brighten my day and probably a few tomorrows. Not that I’d get too attached to it mind, in fact I’d be off-loading it freely. I’d give some to Forumosa too.
HG
This is a very sad statement. Whats disturbing is that a lot of Asian girls in America feel exactly the same way. It this just an asian thing? How sad.
I guess it’s better than Gucci, Gucci, Gucci.
Well if i didn’t have to worry about cash, bills, my next meal ect ect then this is my list in this order:
being with my gf when she’s not cranky
playing baseball or basketball w/ my buddies
driving my old '99 Honda Prelude along any coast back in Vancouver… sunny day, wearing my shades, sunroof open and good tunes on the radio… minus those darn photo radar vans of course! Stretches along the Sea-To-Sky Hwy to Whistler were the best… yah that made me very happy.
It’s fair to say MT that nothing makes you happy.
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Anyone else?[/quote]
I have a “friend” who could help with all three.
True, Fox, or maybe everything.
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This is a very sad statement. Whats disturbing is that a lot of Asian girls in America feel exactly the same way. It this just an Asian thing? How sad.[/quote]
What makes you said that it only applied to Asian girls in America?? I think it is the same here in Taiwan…
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3. driving my old '99 Honda Prelude along any coast back in Vancouver… sunny day, wearing my shades, sunroof open and good tunes on the radio… minus those darn photo radar vans of course! Stretches along the Sea-To-Sky Hwy to Whistler were the best… yah that made me very happy.[/quote]
ditto Gener!! Well, I will be driving in Cali…
also, I have the exact same car!! I love it, and I miss it too!! 
my metalic blue baby… mommy is coming home to you…
This is a very sad statement. Whats disturbing is that a lot of Asian girls in America feel exactly the same way. It this just an Asian thing? How sad.[/quote]
Nope. Almost all the girls I’ve ever known, including all my sisters, have been through that phase – usually around the age of 13. My niece is going through it as we speak. However, they tend to grow out of it after about three years. Many Taiwan girls seem to stay in that mode until they’re in their 30s, when indeed, Gucci, Gucci, Gucci takes over.
Well. I’m married. So when asked what are three things that would make you happy I always answer, " A girlfriend, a girlfriend, a girlfriend."