“Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come.” --Matt Groening.
RAMA-KANDRA: No. I don’t mind. The answer is simple. I love my daughter very much. I find her to be the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen. But where we are from, that is not enough. Every program that is created must have a purpose; if it does not, it is deleted. I went to the Frenchman to save my daughter. You do not understand.
NEO: I just have never…
RAMA-KANDRA: …heard a program speak of love?
NEO: It’s a… human emotion.
RAMA-KANDRA: No, it is a word. What matters is the connection the word implies. I see that you are in love. Can you tell me what you would give to hold on to that connection?
NEO: Anything.
RAMA-KANDRA: Then perhaps the reason you’re here is not so different from the reason I’m here.
What did Tina Turner mean, by “…a second-hand emotion”? Did she mean that love only makes sense when there are at least two? Or that we are manipulated by others’ idea of what love is or should be? Or that our hearts become worn down with multiple affairs, like second-hand clothing?
And then she turns around and says that besides love and compassion, “all else are castles built in the air.” I think she gave that one a Buddhist riff, though. (maitri and karuna).
The hearts a flutter romantic head over heels love. This is mostly the product of hormones and infinite human capacity for delusory imagination. It is very intense but fleeting. And a product of youth - the older you get, the less it happens.
The love built up over the bonds of friendship and time. Not a passionate boil, but a steady simmer. It’s easy to take for granted but is a genuine loss when it’s gone. This is true love. It is not easy to obtain and takes years of work. If you are lucky, maybe you find it once or twice in your life.