Hey, Y’all.
Can you believe that this year the HouseKitten is a high school Sr?! I sure can’t. We’ve been way down and a good way up a few times. I didn’t plan on raising a wonderful son alone, but I have. He’s nearly 18, has fantastic grades and a very, very bright future, full of potential. I am NOT at ALL ready for him to be grown and, honestly, I’m not going to good at letting him go completely. But, until recently, I thought I at least had some idea of what that might look like.
He’s been settled on microbiology as a field of study for a couple of years now, and wants to go to Johns Hopkins in Maryland. I’m unable to pay for it, but I have no doubt he’ll be able to earn all the scholarships he needs, and don’t see any reason he wouldn’t be accepted. So I thought I’d be driving him to Maryland, bawling, and then after dropping him off, going to look for my own new place to stay near-by–thus thwarting his plans of moving away! Ha!
But the world has turned both upside down and inside out. I am genuinely worried about the escalation of civil unrest in the US between now and January. There are people here (I’m deep in a red state, too) who are pushing hard to cause a civil war. The president needs an excuse to grab power and avoid/void an election. He knows if he loses, he’ll be prosecuted. At this point, his loss seems pretty likely.
I am FANTASTICALLY impressed with Taiwan’s response to COVED-19, but of course, the US is disastrously impacted and its people so ignorant that they refuse to wear masks, or wash hands, or stay the hell out of other’s space. There is no way to deal with this, under these conditions, other than to just let it kill those who are susceptible. This is just insane. When a vaccine is available, many won’t even take it.
The US economy is in the garbage, too, and it’s part of what’s driving the civil unrest. I’m fortunate because teachers are needed and because I’m licensed to teach high demand areas. In fact, I’m hoping this next school year to finally earn enough in one year to qualify for Taiwan’s Foreign expert visa–but that will likely fall short, as it always has. I keep hoping to make it because it’s my desire to retire to Taiwan–and I want to do that after this next year–or had planned to–maybe.
The plan was that the Kitten and I visit Taiwan next summer and then decide where he’d be. He’s still crazy allergic to seafood/fish. That’s another real concern. But I know I don’t want to stay in this country much longer. I miss my island home so much.
The other day, considering all these things, and considering that school here may return online only, the Kitten and I were talking about going back to Taiwan in the next couple of months. He could study from there. I could get better health care for my feet (which have become arthritic), and we could avoid living through more of this American madness.
But I’d have to find another path to permanent residency, & he might still have to move back here on his own for college. I couldn’t follow him to Maryland to thwart his plans of moving away.
One of the harder parts about single parenthood is trying to see far enough ahead to be prepared in case you face something you didn’t count on. You want to do this to keep it from impacting your child as much as possible. Well, I do. And I can’t see two steps ahead now. So I’m asking what you think. I’m not asking you to tell me what to do–and indeed probably won’t do whatever you try to tell me to do, to be honest. But I need a sounding board.
And, what are the right questions? CAN I travel to Taiwan right now? If I were Taiwan, I might not be happy to welcome Americans. I’ll be 49 later this year; is there an age limit to finding a good teaching job? (I used to know the answer to that one, but have been gone too long to remember.) And: if I move back to Taiwan again, I never want to move back here again–so permanent residency, some how, is a must.
Thanks for your thoughts. I’m sorry if this is a bit rambley.