Sharing a common language and communication are key.
Sex/physical attraction and chemistry/exotic-ness/cuteness/hotness/smoking body/gaga-ness can only last so long. Those can bring two people together, but they have a shelf life if those are the only things that a relationship is based on. You can’t cute your way out every time you do something wrong, nor can every couple solve EVERY SINGLE argument with sex (make up sex, though…HOLLA! :lick:).
I used to be one of those “Well, if ewe don’t know why I’m mad then fergit it! Harumph!” people. After much communication with the man, that shit doesn’t fly with him and he seriously means it when he says it’s not cute. For an introvert, he really really likes to communicate. We have a rule to never go to bed upset at each other. No matter how tired we are, we must TALK it out.
Anyway, I should be one to give marriage advice, eh? It’ll be two years with my ball and chain and we’ll have two under two. A lot of communication we do now is as parents but I really want to just communicate as two mates. I know this shall pass so maybe I’ll have some more to say after being married for a while longer.
But like I always tell my him, he’s the best first husband ever. And he always tells me I’m the best trophy wife, that is, until he hits midlife crisis then he’ll exchange me for a 25 year old. 'Sall good, we have a good pre-nup.
A friend of mine who is going through divorce was given this advice: Marriage requires work from both people, but you shouldn’t have to work that hard at it. I agree. Love doesn’t just happen, you make it happen. Just like when cheaters say, “Honey! We met and got drunk and intercourse just, well, happened!” Yeah right!