[quote=“Mucha Man”]As for the people, what does that even mean? Do you literally mean each and every person? I wouldn’t expect that. Not here or anywhere. If you are German you are well aware that some groups will not accept immigrants even if they have been in the country for generations. Even in Canada the government didn’t accept Japanese as full citizens during WWII and many today still would not accept Chinese, Indians, Muslims, Greeks, Pakistanis, etc.
So no I don’t expect everyone will accept me. But I don’t need that. I do need a broad acceptance and an ease with having me join the society. And that I have found.[/quote]
I think MM hit the nail on the head with the above statement.
But I can very well relate to touduke’s feeling of not being accepted by Taiwanese society because he’s a foreigner. I remember when I was a teenager living in Germany I was often faced with more or less equivalent behavior by Germans, for instance:
- a lot of Germans would assume that I can’t speak German simply because I look Asian and they would often ask if I spoke German, sometimes in English.
- what was worse, some Germans would intentionally speak broken German to me and my parents (thus making themselves sound like complete idiots), probably believing they were making things easier for us.
- a lot of Germans that I just met would assume that I would eventually leave the country and “go home” (despite being born in Germany). The typical question was “When are you returning to your home country?”
As a teenager, I found these instances to be mildly annoying and sometimes I even felt hurt a little in my pride, but I soon realized this was only because Asians were a very small minority in Germany then (20+ years ago) and people were just acting out of ignorance. At least that’s what I told myself. Sometimes there were definite xenophobic undercurrents but they were easy to spot and thankfully I was not confronted with real xenophobia too often. From these observatios I also reached the conclusion that German society as a whole will probably never fully accept (non-white) foreigners as equal citizens and in their hearts many Germans will probably always look down on non-Germans while not even being aware of it. And eventually this realization caused me to leave Germany.
I think only in a perfect world (think “Imagine” by John Lennon) will every single individual be fully accepted in any society. There will always be non-acceptance on a certain level for whatever reason because let’s face it, not everyone can be your friend and agree with you always (just look at this discussion). The question is can you accept this fact of life or not and if not what will you do to improve your situation? This really depends on your own attitude. Also, let’s be true, foreigners enjoy a high degree of respect in Taiwan in general because Taiwanese society is very welcoming of (Western) foreigners. If you’re asking to be treated like anybody else (ie not like a foreigner) you would also have to give up things that you’ve probably grown accustomed to, like being admired just for being a Westerner, etc. So you can’t have your cake and eat it too, as they say. That said, I can see the use of venting about your dissatisfaction on a forum like this, even though it will not change anything in the society or your personal situation.