# Would you move in with in-laws? **URL:** \ **Category:** LGBTQ+ Forum\ **Created:** [April 20, 2023, 12:51pm UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520 "2023-04-20T12:51:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![BigDave](https://forumosa-12829.kxcdn.com/user_avatar/tw.forumosa.com/bigdave/32/181371_2.png) [@BigDave](https://tw.forumosa.com/u/BigDave)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2023, 2:08pm UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520/21 "2023-04-20T14:08:34Z")
Don’t do it. ---
**Author:** ![BigDave](https://forumosa-12829.kxcdn.com/user_avatar/tw.forumosa.com/bigdave/32/181371_2.png) [@BigDave](https://tw.forumosa.com/u/BigDave)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2023, 2:12pm UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520/22 "2023-04-20T14:12:52Z")
> [@yankeedoodle](#): > > move out of Taiwan. You won’t be able to once you move in. If her health gets worse, he won’t be able to leave. If you move out while she is healthy, she will assume it is because you don’t like her and it will cause trouble. ---
**Author:** ![TT](https://forumosa-12829.kxcdn.com/user_avatar/tw.forumosa.com/tt/32/271883_2.png) [@TT](https://tw.forumosa.com/u/TT)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2023, 3:11pm UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520/23 "2023-04-20T15:11:03Z")
> [@yankeedoodle](#): > > If you were me, would you move in despite the father? How important is it to your husband? What do you want to do? ---
**Author:** ![hannes](https://forumosa-12829.kxcdn.com/user_avatar/tw.forumosa.com/hannes/32/161150_2.png) [@hannes](https://tw.forumosa.com/u/hannes)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2023, 3:17pm UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520/24 "2023-04-20T15:17:50Z")
> [@nz](#): > > I’m pretty firmly against living with in-laws generally. This. Unless there is an unfortunate reason making it absolutely necessary, such as poverty or someone needing permanent care. ---
**Author:** ![Plasticlove1111](https://forumosa-12829.kxcdn.com/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/p/77aa72/32.png) [@Plasticlove1111](https://tw.forumosa.com/u/Plasticlove1111)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2023, 4:51pm UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520/25 "2023-04-20T16:51:29Z")
Agree ---
**Author:** ![Plasticlove1111](https://forumosa-12829.kxcdn.com/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/p/77aa72/32.png) [@Plasticlove1111](https://tw.forumosa.com/u/Plasticlove1111)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2023, 4:53pm UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520/26 "2023-04-20T16:53:22Z")
Almost every asian family has a useless father, as how well you described, clawless tiger loll ---
**Author:** ![tempogain](https://forumosa-12829.kxcdn.com/user_avatar/tw.forumosa.com/tempogain/32/264650_2.png) [@tempogain](https://tw.forumosa.com/u/tempogain)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2023, 5:20pm UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520/27 "2023-04-20T17:20:02Z")
No they don’t. ---
**Author:** ![Mr\_PBH](https://forumosa-12829.kxcdn.com/user_avatar/tw.forumosa.com/mr_pbh/32/230938_2.png) [@Mr\_PBH](https://tw.forumosa.com/u/Mr_PBH)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2023, 5:34pm UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520/28 "2023-04-20T17:34:25Z")
> [@yankeedoodle](#): > > Now my husband’s mother wants me to move in with her because she doesn’t want me to take her son away from living at his childhood home No. > [@yankeedoodle](#): > > It would mean that she would live alone You can visit. ---
**Author:** ![Whatevah](https://forumosa-12829.kxcdn.com/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/w/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Whatevah](https://tw.forumosa.com/u/Whatevah)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2023, 7:32pm UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520/29 "2023-04-20T19:32:26Z")
> [@quandary](#): > > > [@yankeedoodle](#): > > > > because she doesn’t want me to take her son away from living at his childhood home. > > Maybe I read it wrong, but this sounds like controlling. Or she’s sad and or dependent on him. Don’t need to assume the worst all the time. ---
**Author:** ![anon24369109](https://forumosa-12829.kxcdn.com/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/a/3be4f8/32.png) [@anon24369109](https://tw.forumosa.com/u/anon24369109)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2023, 10:04pm UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520/30 "2023-04-20T22:04:01Z")
So you want to move into a house someone else owns and doesn’t want you in the house. Don’t be surprised when you get arrested for trespassing if the owner decides to make a complaint. Would you accept your husbands father just moving into your house without your permission? ---
**Author:** ![Poundsand](https://forumosa-12829.kxcdn.com/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/p/e95f7d/32.png) [@Poundsand](https://tw.forumosa.com/u/Poundsand)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2023, 10:19pm UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520/31 "2023-04-20T22:19:16Z")
Based on what you say, I would not _not_ move in because of the _father_. everything else, eh, sounds fine, if it’s what you want you do. Multi-generational households are fine if the specific household is not totally dysfunctional - social connections and family are healthy, it saves money, builds generational wealth, etc etc etc ---
**Author:** ![yankeedoodle](https://forumosa-12829.kxcdn.com/user_avatar/tw.forumosa.com/yankeedoodle/32/203812_2.png) [@yankeedoodle](https://tw.forumosa.com/u/yankeedoodle)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2023, 8:14am UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520/32 "2023-06-02T08:14:54Z")
Update: Apparently, the father didn’t know that we had been married. Once he found that out he came around. We are a little more civil now. I guess my mother-in-law shamed him for treating his two sons differently, and now that we are married he gave up on trying to expel the foreign devil as I am clearly here to stay. I decided to give it a chance and I will move in. If it turns to shit, we (me and my husband) will just move out. Wish me luck. ---
**Author:** ![kaiqie](https://forumosa-12829.kxcdn.com/user_avatar/tw.forumosa.com/kaiqie/32/210177_2.png) [@kaiqie](https://tw.forumosa.com/u/kaiqie)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2023, 7:42am UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520/33 "2023-07-13T07:42:36Z")
best of luck! i’m nosy and would love updates if you’re wanting to give them. to answer the original question, i don’t think i’d’ve done it, but that’s partially because i like having my own space. i do currently live at my girlfriend’s place like 2/3 of the time, but there’s no history of bad blood with her mom (who also lives there and cares for her non-communicative dad). plus, i can easily run around the corner back to my own apartment! ---
**Author:** ![PeiHua-Connie](https://forumosa-12829.kxcdn.com/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/p/a4c791/32.png) [@PeiHua-Connie](https://tw.forumosa.com/u/PeiHua-Connie)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2024, 1:42am UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520/34 "2024-09-03T01:42:58Z")
> [@Brianjones](#): > > Don’t move in with the family full stop, live your own life as a couple. You can always live nearby This is great advice. Live nearby but not in the same household if at all possible. ---
**Author:** ![PeiHua-Connie](https://forumosa-12829.kxcdn.com/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/p/a4c791/32.png) [@PeiHua-Connie](https://tw.forumosa.com/u/PeiHua-Connie)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2026, 2:37pm UTC](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520/35 "2026-09-20T14:37:27Z")
> [@yankeedoodle](#): > > Update: Apparently, the father didn’t know that we had been married. Once he found that out he came around. We are a little more civil now. I guess my mother-in-law shamed him for treating his two sons differently, and now that we are married he gave up on trying to expel the foreign devil as I am clearly here to stay. I decided to give it a chance and I will move in. If it turns to shit, we (me and my husband) will just move out. Wish me luck. So how did it turn out? Hopefully a happy home! [Previous page](https://tw.forumosa.com/t/would-you-move-in-with-in-laws/229520.md?page=1)