This is a fairly entertaining story, but I am looking for real advice.
Approximately one year ago, I met a German woman on the internet. At first, I was totally disinterested. It was her stuck-up writing style in English. However, we kept in touch because I had to make a trip to Hamburg (where she lives and works) Summer 2005.
The minute we laid eyes upon each other in Hamburg, there was a lot of electricity. We were instantly attracted. We had a great couple of days, going to movies, the beach, out to many delicious restaurants. I invited her to visit me in Japan. She said that it had been a lifelong dream for her to visit The Far East and would like to come as soon as her thesis is finished. (She has been a full-time grad student for many years, under heavy pressure). She said that she anticipated being finished her thesis in March 06 and would love to visit some tea farms in Taiwan for starters, then perhaps see some of Japan. I agreed and offered to help pay for part of her ticket. (Her company would be worth it to me.)
Well, I just got a long letter from her. The letter explains her personal philosophy of relationships. Now, it is of course a very good sign that she took so long to write to me, but the content of the letter says that she believes in polyamoury and this in no way ‘diminishes her interest in me’ and she ‘can’t see herself promised to one as a lifelong commitment’. In other words, Forumosans, this European lady is anti-marriage.
However, at the end of the letter, she says that she finds me very attractive and wants to get to know me on a deeper level, etc. etc.
I consider myself to be monogamous and think marriage is good. However, I am by no means socially conservative and think that everyone ends up creating a relationship that is comfortable for them.
SO WHAT DO YOU THINK? SHOULD I DROP THIS HOT POTATO? Particularly for the Europeans out there: is this some crap that a lot of European women spout before they settle down or is she for real…is she seriously going to pursue a policy of polyamoury her whole life?