I’ve had the great pleasure to live with Taiwanese people for the past 12 years. It’s been wonderful. About 6 years ago I moved here. After my ex and I separated I went full on into yellow fever, and enjoyed every minutes of it (with a certain standard to make it that extra nicer).
It wore thin quickly though, and I met someone I really liked, and stayed with her for three years. About two years into the relationship she went abroad for studies. Shortly after that I got into a major accident and was banned from Taiwan as a consequence (I’m keeping this succinct on purpose). Relationship turned to crap with estrangement, and I didn’t particularly enjoy the ban, doing physio for ten months straight.
Since I’ve been back, I’ve noticed I’m having “reverse yellow fever”. For some reason (I’ve lost quite a bit of weight and got really fit, I have to use a crutch to go out and dance, my hairdresser is doing much better…), I get hit on way more than before. Problem is that locals now completely turn me off, and feel completely transparent to me, 95% of the time. I try to make an effort, and push myself to have an open mind but I get really bored having conversations with even the hottest twenty/thirty something from Taipei. Comes someone different though, black, white, ABC… and I’m back 100%. It makes for fairly boring times out, due to the few foreigners around.
I’m curious to know about others though. Ever been high up and then low down when it comes to being attracted to the locals?
not had this problem in the years ive been here. mostly because a lot of pretty girls are also highly intelligent and submissive (though they pretend to be very independent). and theyre actually feminine, unlike most white and black girls these days (i think something in their food screws their hormone levels)
and naturally you cant expect anyone under 25-30 to have much meaningful stuff to say (generally)
So for yellow fever, once cured, your condition is worst than when you had the illness. I have a chronic case which likely will not be cured, but somehow I manage, the symptoms are quite pleasant, often pleasurable. Maybe you should consider getting re-infected! Not sure what a safe dose would be, but would recommend an “all in” approach for best results, a daily dose 2-3 times per day for several days, until you start feeling better.
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I’m curious to know about others though. Ever been high up and then low down when it comes to being attracted to the locals?[/quote]
When I was between relationships here I joined a dating site, but feared that I’d get no attention because I am white. Nothing could be further from the truth. I found that guys who had been here 5ish or more years were experiencing something similar to what you describe. Or maybe some of them had grown up a bit and were beginning to value good conversation (not saying women here don’t make good conversation, just saying the language can be lacking sometimes) and shared cultural experiences over perfect complexion/body.
Anyways have at it there are still a lot of lonely western women in this country!
[quote=“NonTocareLeTete”][quote=“Ed en Vadrouille”]
I’m curious to know about others though. Ever been high up and then low down when it comes to being attracted to the locals?[/quote]
When I was between relationships here I joined a dating site, but feared that I’d get no attention because I am white. Nothing could be further from the truth. I found that guys who had been here 5ish or more years were experiencing something similar to what you describe. Or maybe some of them had grown up a bit and were beginning to value good conversation (not saying women here don’t make good conversation[/quote]
Yes, you mean it
[quote=“jesus80”][quote=“NonTocareLeTete”][quote=“Ed en Vadrouille”]
I’m curious to know about others though. Ever been high up and then low down when it comes to being attracted to the locals?[/quote]
When I was between relationships here I joined a dating site, but feared that I’d get no attention because I am white. Nothing could be further from the truth. I found that guys who had been here 5ish or more years were experiencing something similar to what you describe. Or maybe some of them had grown up a bit and were beginning to value good conversation (not saying women here don’t make good conversation[/quote]
Yes, you mean it [/quote]
No way man, I’ve got some Taiwanese friends who are amazing conversationalists - language can be a barrier but if you get past it they’re cool.
There could be a cultural aspect as well— I was always pushed to be interesting and to have cool hobbies when I was growing up (in America). I think women here are pushed to be beautiful more than interesting. We all gravitate toward what we’re rewarded for. But I could totally be misreading that- it’s more likely just the language thing.
maybe you have had too much of a good thing, or the sour experience and break just made an emotional break for you. who knows, bottom line is you are over it so are you gonna stay or go somewhere else?
western women do the opposite for me, they affirm the fever! not knocking them though.
nontocarelete. there are plenty of taiwanese girls who can speak english really well and have lots of interesting hobbies… if thats your thing i think you can find it. maybe those guys just told you what you wanted to hear? i’m not saying guys wouldn’t get tired of local girls though and want to go back to western women but i find your reasoning to be wrong from people i know.
[quote=“NonTocareLeTete”][quote=“jesus80”][quote=“NonTocareLeTete”][quote=“Ed en Vadrouille”]
I’m curious to know about others though. Ever been high up and then low down when it comes to being attracted to the locals?[/quote]
When I was between relationships here I joined a dating site, but feared that I’d get no attention because I am white. Nothing could be further from the truth. I found that guys who had been here 5ish or more years were experiencing something similar to what you describe. Or maybe some of them had grown up a bit and were beginning to value good conversation (not saying women here don’t make good conversation[/quote]
Yes, you mean it [/quote]
No way man, I’ve got some Taiwanese friends who are amazing conversationalists - language can be a barrier but if you get past it they’re cool.
There could be a cultural aspect as well— I was always pushed to be interesting and to have cool hobbies when I was growing up (in America). I think women here are pushed to be beautiful more than interesting. We all gravitate toward what we’re rewarded for. But I could totally be misreading that- it’s more likely just the language thing.[/quote]
You see? you meant that
nontocarelete. there are plenty of taiwanese girls who can speak english really well and have lots of interesting hobbies.[/quote]
I totally agree with you about the interesting hobbies, and some with speaking English really well— but there is a level of fluency someone can’t have without having grown up with the language. For me it’s vital that I can communicate fluidly with a significant other without much effort- I very much fall in love with my ears (and mouth?).
If there are guys like me, then there probably aren’t “plenty” of Taiwanese girls who reach an adequate level of fluency.
But not knocking people if that level of fluency in English is not as important to them.
Ha ha! I was at a party and this guy was chatting me up, and kept saying, over and over, “oh my god, I’m so not into Taiwanese girls, I only like western girls, I’ve been here 5 years, I’m just not into Taiwanese girls at all any more, blah blah blah,” to the point where I was really turned off because he appeared to be a racist. I ditched out and found some other people to talk to- later during the party, I saw him talking to a shockingly pretty Taiwanese girl, leaning in close, stroking her arm…I caught his eye and raised my glass, and he shrugged as if to say, “Hey, you rejected me, what do you expect?”
I definitely think some guys have latched onto this line knowing that it’s a relief to some western girls to hear it. But damn son, I don’t want to date a racist!
