While it’s nice to encourage Erhu to action, I think she also wants to know what she can expect before agreeing to a date. Maybe she will open a door she wished she hadn’t. Maybe thinking first before diving in will save her future grief.
IMHO, I think it’s fine for an older woman to date a younger man if there are no illusions, or false hopes, or expectations about the nature of the relationship. To be sure, this should be the case for any relationship, but should be emphasized more here.
What I’m talking about is the general fear that the younger man will eventually look for another young woman. That said, this is not a certainty, and I would presume there are many relationships of this kind that endure. However, insecurities and fear of this possibility would bring grief. The persons, being of different age, are in different phases of their lives and may have different expectations. What if the older woman is looking for a long-term relationship, and even marriage/children, etc, but never communicates that fact to the man. What if the man is open to that possibility, but gets scared away by the other’s insecurities. Honesty about one’s expectations to oneself and the partner will do wonders for a relationship.
On the bright side, if both partners are on the same page, and there’s no reason why that can’t be the case, then there’s no reason not to date this person, be he young or old (but don’t rob the cradle or raid the retirement home. ). Communication is the key! (cue LedZep communication breakdown for maximum satisfaction)
but if it’s just about great sex, then go for it. and bring some viagra for the 4th round.
or so I hear.