I thought in the modern world, men and women were equal. Anything men can do, women can too, and all of that.[/quote]
But that is what came to my mind too. In fact it always does, whenever women are involved in torturing crimes. Somehow and maybe I’m perpetuating stereotypes, but a crime of passion or money swindling is sth. I can understand women doing, even voluntary prostitution but prolonged torture?? And this case seems more bizarre (to me) because there are two women involved. Somehow a man-woman duo dynamic in committing crimes is more easily digestible. Yes, I know it is stereotyping, but in my (feminine) head, I’d be happier thinking that women are incapable of prolonged brutality. :s
Sad, sad, group dynamic and I shudder to think what the victim went through. Sorry about that.[/quote]
Long ago I was disabused of the notion that women are any kinder or gentler than men. I’ve seen some horror shows of abuse and neglect committed by both genders since I go to homes to work with infants and toddlers. Sadly, I am not surprised by this act, nor by the participants. I doubt that gender or sexual preference had much to do with it compared to learned behaviors and group psychology.[/quote]
I know, but you’re the expert. To a layman like me, I’s rather not be disabused of my notion, but I guess we have to learn. Last evening my daughter and her friend were not found on the playground, they decided to go sit on the stairs of one of the buildings. They’re both seven. Within 5 mins of near panicking they rollicked down adn well …later when I was having another safety talk with my girl, I kept saying ‘sometimes a man may find you alone on the stairs and may do…’ this thead cam to mind and I had to go correct myself ‘a woman or a man or anyone may see you alone and try to hurt you or…’ ugggghhh.[/quote]
That had to be horrible!! My sister lets her 7 year old wander the neighborhood, crossing the streets and everything, alone. It strikes fear into the deepest recesses of my heart thinking about what could happen (don’t get me started on how I feel about her parenting, she subscribes to some very odd ideas which fly in the face of my understanding of childhood development, but I keep my lip buttoned and my house open to the kids). I can only imagine what it would be like to have my own daughter missing even for a minute.
So I fully understand not wanting to know about the vast variety of terrors that can happen to people, I’m right there with you! Honestly, I’m not really trained for it (I know speech and language delays/disorders well, but I guarantee the majority of people could run circles around me on psychology), and I don’t have thick enough skin for it. Thankfully my primary responsibility in those situations is to get CPS involved ASAP instead of trying to handle it all myself.