Hi everybody, I wish I had found this wonderful community before, now I’m unfortunately a bit in a rush but I’m reading as much as I can
First of all let me express my sympathy for all those of you who undergo a traumatic experience such as a divorce, for whatever reason. I’m close to you and I wish you all the strength necessary to move toward a brighter future.
I am an EU citizen and I am about to getting married to my Taiwanese fiancee here in Taiwan. She is pregnant of our first baby and we plan of moving back to Europe as soon as the baby is born. Asking here for advice in case there is something important I need to know that I might regret not having considered…
To give you a bit more detail on the “why”: I am living in Europe with a decent job, and met my fiancee a few years ago during a trip. We had this long distance relationship, then lived together for a few months, then long distance again, met respective families, etc. The plan was for her to move to my home country and get married there in Europe as soon as she finished her studies. But then corona arrived, and messed up everything. We got separated but managed nevertheless to visit each other every couple of months. Just when she was about to finish her studies she got pregnant while visiting me in Europe, so we decided that it was best for her to spend (the second half of) the pregnancy time in Taiwan with her family. As the due date is approaching I managed to enter Taiwan to spend the last months here with her, the plan is to return together to Europe as soon as possible. As she would then need a EU resident visa, and after checking the covid-induced complications to my country’s already involved marriage process, we decided it was simpler to marry here in Taiwan before leaving, and then have our marriage registered in my home country.
I love her SO much, I’m super happy about the baby, and I’m 100% sure we’ll never ever need divorce advice. And any divorced parent has been in my same mindset at some point of their life. Let’s say that this post is a moment of doubt and weakness from my side, but the question is: am I doing something stupid, or that I could regret, by marrying here first instead of in my home country?
Just to be clear, the question is not about marriage yes/no, but rather marrying here in Taiwan VS somewhere else. My understanding is that my question is a bit different from what you usually see on this forum because we don’t plan of staying here in Taiwan, but you never know.
Thanks in advance for any useful reply.