This is my first encounter with dating a single mom so I do expect it to be different in comparison to my past relationships.
So far been on 4 dates with the last that hit home-run at my place. Prior to that she opened up to me and told me she dealt with a bad divorce of having to get married while she was young due to an unwanted pregnancy.
Since after, she got into another serious relationship over a month ago which was short lived when she found out the guy has a gf while he was dating her. Apparently this poor lady is quite shattered in addition of having to raise her son on her own.
So now I stepped up the plate as she mentioned she will not be emotionally ready for another relationship which I can understand.This is utterly new experience for me as I am unsure if she will ever be emotionally ready and I do not want to be led with a false hope. In a sense, I do feel like I am dating a ghost which means we do not chat up at all aside from the dates.
The logic is that time will determine the outcome but unfortunately, my stay in Taiwan seems it will not be long term due to the job related situation. So how do I get the clarity sense from her that she will eventually be emotionally ready so I can try and stay longer to get to know her better?
she seems non committal? well so do you, you said yourself you are not sure if you are sticking around so what do you expect from her. and what more can you expect after 4 dates anyway?
OK I will bite. Assuming the story at face value. My one penny face value valuation as follows:
at this stage you may like her more then she likes you.
she is a woman who is no stranger to sex (she has a child, hence the proof) and may have the desire thereof and there to. You don’t communicate outside of your dates, which leads me to believe that you are being used …by her (duh) for (drum roll here) SEX…yes that nasty 4 letter word.
There are people who would love to have a dancing partner like her. No commitments, pure FUN …another possibly 4 letter word.
Looks like you are the one who has problems staying
“non-committed”
And yes, NO, she doesn’t appear to be ready for involvement of an emotional kind as yet.
But beware, things change rapidly in the world of that true 4 letter word (LOVE). She could end up attached to you and you could end up running away as fast as you can. Or something else.
Back in the days when rock was young, a young tommy when he found out a date was not only NOT a virgin (although she was “like” a virgin) but had two kids…may as well have dropped a nuke. Young tommy cut her off cold duck (er turkey).
Nowadays older tommy may have been more considerate and more open to a relationship.
Sounds like you are in for a “fun” ride. Take it where it flies.
Life is for the living .
Love is for the loving.
Running is for the running…
where was i? lost my train of thought…
You don’t communicate outside of your dates, which leads me to believe that you are being used …by her (duh) for (drum roll here) SEX…yes that nasty 4 letter word.
The logic is that time will determine the outcome but unfortunately, my stay in Taiwan seems it will not be long term due to the job related situation. So how do I get the clarity sense from her that she will eventually be emotionally ready so I can try and stay longer to get to know her better?
I don’t understand. Your stay in Taiwan will not be long term, but you want a serious relationship with her?
It sounds to me you don’t really know yet if you want to be in a serious relationship and that if you do you’re not sure if you want to be with her. And it sounds a bit like it’s the same on the other side. I think I would just enjoy the status quo unless i’m wrong about how you feel, and see how things work out.