[quote=“rocky raccoon”][quote=“dylanh724”]Hi,
Straight guy here, wanting to know an answer to a simple question that some friends and I are theorizing about:
If you like girls, and want to be attractive to another girl, how come most people in TW seem to cut hair short, hide boobs, and look like a guy?
I mean hey, I like girls too, but I think: “Girls that like men like men that look like men”. So that thought is process switched to lesbian brings out this pondering paradox:
“As a straight man, If I see a girl that looks like a guy, with boobs hidden like a man’s chest, I’m pretty sure that’d make me attracted to guys: not girls. O__o so what’s the thought process if you are trying to attract a lesbian? Does the average lesbian like women that look like men, or simply like the look of men, just, without a penis :P”
Thanks for your enlightenment~ very curious about response out of pure curiosity.[/quote]
A shot in the dark, but maybe short-haired “butch” (as they’re unaffectionately referred to) lesbians just identify more with their masculine side? Similar to how some gay men are referred to as “flamboyant” since they’re comfortable exhibiting traits that society defines as feminine. In both situations, I don’t think they’re making a conscious effort to attract someone per se, but just being themselves. Thankfully society is quite tolerant these days so they can do just that.
Maybe another way to think of it is like this: does a straight guy wear a baseball cap and/or a sports jersey to attract girls? Or does he choose that style because it reflects his internal identity which in turn represents the image he’s trying to project to the world? I’m pretty sure it’s the latter. People all along the sexual spectrum seem to be attracted to others that are comfortable and confident with themselves.[/quote]
Hmm, right I get the concept – but if you look at a gay flamboyant man, he doesn’t usually have long flowing hair, makeup, and wear a dress (the average flamboyant gay man) – it’s more like, his actions seem to be more feminine. Then gay flamboyant men are usually more stylish, or may have a feminine “vibe” to it, but overall doesn’t try to look like a girl. Thus, still having the look of a man since gay men are attracted to … men. Usually.
So when thinking this way, the opposite with women comes back to my original Q