I’m a Brit, wife’s Taiwanese. We are soooo dissimilar it is unreal, I like the sun she hates the sun, she likes rice I like potatoes, I find rain refreshing she doesn’t, I wanna get out of the house she wants to stay home, she’s gets up early I stay up late, I like clean she likes messy, she is stubborn so am I… ohh.
But as the saying goes opposites attract. For whatever reason we seem to be a *perfect fit, and manage to bounce off each other, when we are not yelling at each other. It seems the differences help to keep us together.
A stupid example is eggs !!! eggs I heard you cry… yes well we both hate eggs… but when we go out to the noodle shop we always get a starter of boiled eggs and tofu drenched in ‘thick soy sauce?’… how do we pull this off ? well I hate egg whites and she hates egg yokes…
So finally the point, are you similar or dissimilar to your spouse ? do you find this a help of a hindrance ?
(* OK not perfect, but no couple/marriage is ? is it ?)
My wife and I used to live in a shared house so it was sometimes possible to get an outsiders perspective on our marriage. One time one of our roomates said “I don’t understand you guys. The two only two things you do are fuck and fight.” That was ten years ago and a lot of the fucking and most of the fighting have been replaced with serene calm and an appreciation of each others differences. I guess that’s a yes. I do think opposites attract.
Whether is similar or dissimilar to our own spouses, we still have to live with it. Living as if in through thick and thin, poor and rich, till death do us apart… Probably the similarity of the spouse is going to make each other stronger, and the dissimilarity will continue to complementing each other, which I think is a wonderful supplementary.
[quote=“Bu Lai En”]Me and my wife are similar in most of the important things that keep us together.
We’re as different as possible on all those day to day things that annoy the fuck out of each other.
Brian[/quote]
Yes x3, I couldn’t agree more with what you are saying.
My wife and I are very different, but on things that count we can agree. However, it’s those little things that make for great arguments. It’s strange though, most of the time when we argue I feel that we are saying the same thing, but have a different way of saying it. Crazy huh.
I think the glass is half full, she thinks its half empty.
I like to consider carefully all ventures but then go balls-to-the-wall when a decision is made to move, she cares little for prior planning but gets cold feet when its time to take the first step forward.
Oh, well. We Love Each Other anyway.
[quote=“Grateful Dead in They Love Each Other”]
Got it from the top
it’s nothing you can stop
Lord, you know they
made a fine connection
They love each other
Lord, you can see it’s true
He could pass his time
'round some other line
But you know he
chose this place beside her
Don’t get in the way
there’s nothing you can say,
Nothing thay you need
to add or do
They love each other
Lord, you can see it’s true
It’s nothing they explain
it’s like a diesel train–
you better not be there
when it rolls over
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Or how about this… You have both argued your side of the arguement so convincingly that you wind up (years later) arguing from the opposite side! That has happened more times than I like to admit.
I used to think we were so dis-similar (sic) that opposites had to attract. Now I find, almost 9 years later, that we are actually very much the same Not sure who mutated who, but, like the posters above, we still argue most over the mundane shit.
Not sure who mutated who, but, like the posters above, we still argue most over the mundane shit.