OK, I’m a western female, been here for 6 months and am developing a really nice gang of TW friends now.
Thing I just don’t get yet is how female friends behave with each other here. It seems that, contrary to my expectations, my female friends are much more comfortable with close personal space than I am. For example, I often find them patting my shoulder, putting an arm round my shoulder, or linking arms as we walk along, and so forth. I have even ended up holding hands.
I’m quite comfortable with it, even though it’s way different from how I behave with my female friends at home, but I just don’t understand it yet. Are they behaving with me as they would with their TW female friends, or am I a special case - do they just think I’m “cute”? Are they actually treating me a bit like a “pet”? A tame foreigner?
There’s one particular concern too: one of my teachers is way more touchy-feely than anyone else and, frankly, even though she’s a few years older than me and married I’m beginning to wonder whether she’s actually coming onto me? I get all of the above behavior from her, but unless I’m way off the mark here, there’s a definite “meaningful undertone” / tension to it all. There are glances that last a second too long, she on occasion brushes my hair out of my eyes, and she has even stood behind me and massaged my shoulders in class. In fact, one of my other TW female friends IS bisexual, and she is not even this physical with me (though of course she maybe doesn’t see me that way). All this is behavior I’d interpret as outright flirting at home, but over here, am I just reading it wrong?? I’m really not sure how to react…
Grateful for any insight!!
Thanks. AG xx